Episode Transcript
Hello. My name is Aziz and I'm the son of a divorced mother. She is really my superhero.
That's why it's important for me to support women, to share their uniqueness, their personalities,
perspectives, and emotions about life. Too many women in this world feel alone. They
worry about the judgment of others and they struggle with their mental health.
But when they listen to the Rare Girls podcast where empowered women share
their stories and tell about their journeys, many women will feel inspired
to live a life of freedom and to overcome all their insecurities.
They will feel it is a safe space to find their confidence,
to remember their unique beauty and to feel their self-worth,
and they will connect with the sisterhood of rare girls who encourage their success and support their dreams.
That's what this podcast is all about.
My guest today is Greta Bachata.
For the past five years, Greta has been immersed in the captivating world of Bachata,
moving to the rhythm and expressing her soul through dance. But that's just the beginning.
She also had a thrilling career as a cabin crew member, jetting off to mesmerizing destinations
and embracing the beauty of diverse cultures across the globe. Greta believes in going beyond
the external journey and diving into the depths of her inner world. That's why meditation and
Staying fit has become an integral part of her life,
allowing her to explore the realms of self-discovery
and to find peace amidst the chaos.
Greta is a soaring dreamer who has taken flight
in the world of aviation,
having completed a bachelor's degree in aviation management
and a master's degree in entrepreneurship.
Originally from Vilnius, Lithuania,
She now calls Toronto, Canada, her home.
Greta, how are you today?
Hi everyone, thank you Aziz for this nice introduction.
Thank you for having me here and I hope we will have an amazing time with you to speak about empowering the woman and we'll have just fun.
In general, I feel amazing because recently, as you mentioned, I moved to Toronto
And this is the place where I really discovering myself
where I try to find myself and also see what is good in me
what is bad, where I have to improve.
So this journey right now is amazing.
So thank you for having me and I really like it.
I'm happy.
I'm honored.
I feel very lucky to have you here.
And I'm really curious to know much, much more about you.
So I'll begin with this nice first question
which is, Greta, if your friends and the people
who know you very well could describe your personality,
what would they say about you?
I should ask my friends, I guess, to tell me right now,
but I think at least what I'm trying to give
from myself to my friends,
it's that true support what they need.
If they need to speak, I am listening. If they need my advice, I'm telling that I'm not trying to say that what I think and what my life looks like, you have to live the same way.
I'm just trying to be that real support for them. And I think they would tell that I'm very reliable.
I am that friend who will always support will always help and be for them when they need but not that exaggerating, you know, and I think for sure they will tell she's royal because every time they say that when you enter the room, it feels like the Queen entered.
So everybody's watching you and everybody's like,
oh, she entered because she always have that posture.
Like she brings herself with so big confident
into the room and she knows her value.
So I think that they will tell like this.
I have so many questions
and I want to begin with that royalty
because I feel and believe it's missing
within many women nowadays
that they don't feel their self-worth.
they compare themselves to others and feel, judge, they don't feel they should be treated as a queen
or feeling like a queen or entering the room as a queen because they think, who am I? Why should
I do that? What if people reject me and hate me because I do that and then I'm alone and
they worry? So to you, what beliefs or ideas give you the possibility to be
royal in your attitude and behavior?
And what's your advice to other women
so that they treat themselves in the same way?
Such a good question, Aziz.
First of all, what you mentioned is really important
because women right now, we have this social media
which is really destroying our personal identity.
We are scrolling through the Instagram.
We are seeing that some nice chick is in Dubai.
she's in the yacht and she's enjoying her life and I'm sitting here in, I don't know, in Munich,
for example, yeah, and I don't have anything, I'm just going to work from eight to five, nothing,
yeah, and you start to grudge yourself, you start to be jealous, like why like this, yeah,
and you start to compare and from there starts all your problems. So
This is very important to find yourself, to understand who you are. So as, let's say,
it wouldn't be stupid, but you have to have your journal. It's very important to write down what
you think, what you feel, what you noticed in yourself and always understand your benefits.
I mean, your advantages and disadvantages. So you would be powered and you would know
what exactly to do.
Then definitely when you're very young, you're 15, 16,
it's normal to compare yourself with others
because you don't know how it's supposed to be.
So give yourself time until some period of time
has to pass.
You have to grow, you have to have this bad experience
and then you will start to understand
what is exactly you.
Even though sometimes you feel that how could he cheat on you, how that girl could talk that bad about you.
He didn't do anything bad.
But after some time, you start to understand that this was the best part of your life,
because this pushed you to find yourself, to start doing something in your life and be better.
Yeah. So, um, my advice really would be try to spend less time in social media.
Try to really find the people who would motivate you.
For example, me, myself, I really like listening to Jay Shetty, to Tony Robbins,
to, um, Steve and he has his podcast, the CEO, podcast with CEO.
These people are really motivating me.
and also like reading books. So I'm always trying myself to be inspired that would bring me forward.
Yeah. And I also limited my time in the social media. So I wouldn't be comparing myself at all
with anybody. So like, oh, she has that bad or she, she's dancing better or she's doing
something better. No, I am me myself and I have my energy, which is amazing to other people.
And I don't want to be the queen for the whole world,
but I want to be a queen for my people
who really respect me and who really love me.
So, yeah, try to compare less yourself with others,
limit your social media, read more, be outside,
meditate and listen to your gut.
Thank you.
I love all that wisdom.
It's absolutely essential and important.
and I notice and understand and realize
you're living now in Canada.
Tell me a bit more about that in the sense that
how is it to go from your country or where you used to live
to go to Canada?
Do you already have friends or how is the process
as an adult?
It's harder to make new friends.
Tell me everything about it as well as
your advice for women who might be thinking
about doing this for their future,
but they hesitate and think I'll be too far from my family
if something happens, I don't know what I'll do.
Thank you for this question.
This is currently very important part of my life
which is going right now.
I will start from advice because I think,
so starting from the advice,
so girls, you have to be really brave.
You have to pursue your life
Like you have to try everything in your life.
If the universe is giving you a chance, use it.
Don't think that, oh, what that people will say about you.
Oh, how I will do that.
Oh, my family's here, as you mentioned, yeah?
Or anything that your brain starts to find the issue,
find the excuses not to go.
If the universe is giving you an opportunity, use it.
How hard it wouldn't be.
So be brave, yeah?
And what about me?
Why I'm in Toronto right now?
Because I am from a small country, Lithuania, Vilnius,
and how it all, my journey started.
So I had a really tough breakup
and this breakup pushed me to really start
discovering myself, who I am.
I started to go to women courses.
I started to do even more meditation.
I went into so deeper discovering myself,
as I mentioned before about the books, about the notes,
about really doing what I was scared of doing.
So moving to Toronto was one of the things
which I was dreaming because I really love Canada.
I used to be here before and I love the atmosphere,
the energy, the people here,
as Lithuanian people are really like cold,
you cannot go and smile or go through the city
and say hi, it's not there.
But in Canada, everybody's open,
everybody feels like you're not foreigner or somebody,
but like keeping it together, yeah.
So in general, I'm really dreamer
and one night, I think it was in December, 2022. So I had a dream.
Beginning, it was very bad. Everything was a disaster in my dream. But later somehow
this dream turned into that I was able to see North America. So it was Canada and USA.
And next day I'm going to work and my friend, she's just like coming to me and she like offering how I saw some program or something like this and maybe want to go with me to Canada.
I was like, oh my God, I just dreamed this night about Canada. So I really took it as a sign.
I was like, why do I lose? I lose nothing. I have a master's, I have a bachelor's, I'm dancing, and somehow I will find something to do in this Toronto.
And in general, it was my dream to be back in Canada.
So we packed our stuff and we, in April, we traveled to Toronto.
And it's already two months since we are here and we both love it.
We see here so many opportunities. People are really open.
They really want to help and they're like, I don't know, the vibe and the energy of this country has something in it.
And about the dancing as well, I yesterday understood that how lucky I am that I'm dancing
because Bachata dance, they have always socials.
So when all the people are gathering together, dancing, chatting, so this also brought me
a really good, how to say, so I met a lot of people and that it made a little
bit my life easier in Toronto. Because when you come to the new country, it's very tough,
very tough because you don't know the policies, you don't know the rules. I'm still
a few of Canadian rules. I'm like, why really? Why you have this? But anyways,
so this dance part really helped me to know more people, to explore, to go travel. And
Yeah, like this.
I really love being here and I hope there is more to come
and I'm excited to know what will be there.
Thank you.
I encourage all your success.
I'm so happy you did this and I wanna extract more.
Let's speak first a bit about the breakup,
not specifically like that, but it's part of life.
Some women get their hearts broken
when there is a breakup,
but maybe that makes them close their heart to any new love that could be better and even lose
or reject people they could have great chemistry with. How are you dealing with this so that
your heart doesn't become an ice queen? I know it's royal, but not in a good way.
So that you are open to an important part of life, which is love, so that you become better
Instead of becoming bitter, and like many people, they have that stereotype of people as they grow in time.
They're like always angry, always hating happy people, all that.
And breakups can cause many women to close their hearts and just think, oh, I don't want to try that again.
It hurts too much.
Perfect question.
It's so many to think about.
But yeah, in the beginning, when my breakup happened,
I thought I don't want anybody around me at all.
I really had a trust issue and like you're sitting
and thinking how you can trust somebody else
one more time when your heart was destroyed
into so many pieces of, it's tough, for sure it's tough.
But the most important thing I think it's after the breakup,
not to jump to another relationship
because you have to process it inside of you.
You have to feel that pain, which is so painful in you.
You don't know what to do.
You just want to run on the walls
and like scream and what to do.
And this is the thing, you have to really feel it,
acknowledge that, that this thing happened to you
and how hard it wouldn't be,
try to see it from the positive side, yeah?
As I mentioned before, every bad thing,
what happens to you, it's a great opportunity.
So as usually we say, if one door is closed,
closed means another will open, yeah?
So wait for it.
Wait for the perfect moment, the doors will open.
Definitely the opportunities will be coming to you
and you have to see them, yeah?
And you have to be brave and try to, this time after the breakup, you have to really
focus on yourself.
And I would really recommend up to one year, even spend this time for yourself, because
one of the reasons why the breakup could happen, it's because you were very focused
on the second half, especially girls.
they, when they start a relationship, they want to be perfect. They want to give everything to the
guy. And they're just like giving, even though they are not receiving. So they are best in the
bed. They want to be very clean. They want to keep the house clean. They are also like
trying to multitask everything at once. And as a result, they forget about themselves. And
this lead that you don't know who you are.
You don't know what you wanna do.
You're just living the second, like your partner life,
what he wants, what is his dreams
and you don't care about yourself.
So I really recommend after the breakup,
spend the year exploring yourself, traveling,
meeting new people, doing what scares you,
what you wanted always to do,
but something was stopping you.
So let this year be only for you.
And why I'm saying explore yourself
and go deep into yourself
because you have to process this trauma
because breakup it's trauma
and trust issue will be huge.
And this is your responsibility
not to bring it to another relationship
uh, because another person, he's not, um, you cannot blame him. What happened to you?
You want to, uh, go to a new relationship, being healthy and not doing the same thing
what you used to be doing before. So, um, yeah, this trauma thing, um, if you are able,
just go with a psychologist or somebody who would be able to help you if you can do it
by yourself, but not try to hide it and try to pretend that everything is good. I'm strong.
I am like that, like that. No. How strong you wouldn't be still at least small part
or even bigger, is in you.
It's trauma, and you have to work on it
if you care about your second relationship.
And when you process this trauma,
and everything is good,
you will see that you can trust people.
And after that, you have to be open.
And you know how smart people are saying,
if a student is ready, the teacher will come. So if you will be ready and the universe will think
that you are ready for a new relationship, you processed everything you had from the past,
your right guy for sure will come and you will be so in love, you will be so happy,
and you will be thinking, how could I be in that relationship when nobody valued me
And when I was like, nobody respected me.
So I think like this.
Thank you.
That's absolutely so much wisdom.
And to finish this, you mentioned the word brave
and to be brave twice.
To give it more understanding,
maybe even to girls who are still teenagers
and they want to understand,
maybe they have something they love,
they want to create in their life,
but they don't do it.
They worry, oh, what if I disappoint my parents?
What if I fail and people judge me and hate me?
I don't know if I'm ready.
Who am I to go for my big dreams?
What can women do who are stopped
because they feel stuck in their comfort zone
so that they go into outside their comfort zone,
take risks because that is where
all their potential is created.
How can they be brave?
What advice do you have about this?
Thank you for this question.
And so girls, if you are struggling with this, ask yourself, whose life you're living,
for whom you're living and why you have to live somebody's dreams and somebody's expectations of
you when you're living just once. And you don't know how long it will take you. Maybe
it's only one week left for you. Maybe you will be lucky and you will live 100 years here.
So really think deeply what you want to achieve in life. Do you want to sit in your chair being
70 and regretting that you weren't brave enough to do something here? Being young,
you were dreaming about, oh my God,
I wanna go to, I don't know, Africa, yeah,
and have a photo with lion,
or I want to learn how to ski,
and you're right now sitting in your chair,
you're 70, and you know,
health not allows you to do everything already, yeah?
And you're regretting it.
To sit for a moment and imagine what would you do?
And right now you have a possibility, you have a chance to really do that. So don't wait for the
perfect moment. There is no perfect moment. There is like, Oh, maybe I will learn the,
I will earn the money and then I will go. Or, Oh, I will get fit. Then I will do this
photoshoot. No, no, just believe in yourself. Believe that you can do everything what comes
to your mind. If that came to your mind, it means you are able to do that because let's
imagine if the idea that you want to travel to Africa came to you, but not going to
Mars it came and he will be doing that dream, making it true for you came to go to travel
to Africa. So try it. Yeah. Try to, if you don't have money, for example, go and think
how you can earn it. Yeah. But make that dream come true. And you live just once.
You cannot just think that what Alejandro told about me so he is right, yeah, or what Mr. Smith is saying that, oh, no, it's stupid idea what you would go there, what you would do that.
If you feel yourself feels go be brave and enjoy your time.
Thank you so much, Greta. Honestly, it was my privilege and my honor to share your voice,
your perspectives, your experience. I wish you all the prosperity and success and happiness in
Canada. I wish you all your dreams to come true and to totally develop yourself and feel proud of
the woman you are every day becoming. And thank you again.
Thank you so much. I had a really great time and love it. Your questions were so on point and I
really hope the girls who will be listening to that, they would believe in themselves
that you are creator of your life. You are not somebody else. So take the wheel, take the
Responsibility of the car, which I mean by life, and drive where you want, yeah?
Where you think and where you feel is the best for you.
But not somebody outside of this car who is thinking and saying you are that, you're
not.
You know who you are and you're the best version of yourself when you know your inner
soul in their inner voice.
