Episode Transcript
Abdulaziz M Alhamdan 0:00
your femininity is powerful in all its forms exceptional women, rare girls must be appreciated in every way for their perspectives, actions, thoughts, and their unique ways of being. Such rare girls are inspiring. And this is what this podcast is all about. Hello, my name is Aziz and my guest today is engine put off. So, Inc, Jen is Mongolian, and she currently is a student at Duke Kunshan University. Her hobbies include writing her feelings and her journal, writing, poetry, learning new things, reading fairy tales for little children mental health, wellness, as well as dressing up for herself, in general won first place of the hobby poet, which is her school's competition. And interesting fact about her is, she has never seen her parents since the age of one years old. Engine. How are you today?
Enkhjin Purevsukh 1:24
Hi, guys. I'm fine. I'm just doing my assignments and trying to be the best freshman. How are you?
Abdulaziz M Alhamdan 1:35
I'm doing well. I'm feeling positive, I wish for you to be the best freshman you can be. And I'm really curious about you. So let's begin with this. If you could describe your personality, I don't know if your freshman friends know you enough to describe it as well. What would you say about yourself,
Enkhjin Purevsukh 1:59
I would tell my tell about myself as maybe charming and empathetic. And maybe my friends describe me as impoverished woman cuz I feel like I am both soft and hard sometimes, and both warm and cold sometimes. So I feel like this all describes me as an empathetic person. Like, when I feel something, I tend to feel it deeply, but not too deep enough to destroy my mind. So yeah, I would describe myself as an as an empathetic, charming and impoverished woman.
Abdulaziz M Alhamdan 2:51
I like that and to ask you, then you feel things deeply, but not so deep that it can break you. Well, do you tend to like and enjoy feeling some kind of negative emotions like drama? Or, like watching murder mysteries and things like that? Or do you try to keep yourself always in constant positive vibes?
Enkhjin Purevsukh 3:23
I feel like being positive all the time is impossible, because I think it's not healthy. If you're like trying to be positive all the time. Like, yes, I tried to. I tried to be positive before but it just feel like not natural. And I'm just kind of acting. For now. I like to watch videos, no ways, podcasts, documentaries and mystery murdery things like that. Feeling is valuable to the world, like emotions give rally to the world. So I want to feel so many things, whether it's negative or positive. I just want to be the rich person in emotions and feelings. So I think the most important thing is, even though if I listen to like, so negative and things, things that are detrimental to my mind, I kind of like to release them eventually. Not sailing them in my heart. Like if I say them in my heart, it will bottle up maybe and then like instead I will release them eventually. So it is better for my mental health. So yeah, I like to fill many things.
Abdulaziz M Alhamdan 4:58
I like that And thank you for that. And you said you feel things but you don't allow them to get deep enough? Are you an impasse? Are you able to feel the energy and the emotions of other people easily? Or do you keep somehow of a distance so that people with negative vibes don't contaminate your mood or anything like that.
Enkhjin Purevsukh 5:24
I think that feeling things deeply is kind of happiness. Cuz when I feel something, it means I'm alive. And I am capable of feeling something and capable of reacting to those things. I think I can relate to others feelings and easily guess how there was people failing, or, or how my friends feeling just like according to them face expressions, or body posture from bad. Like, my friends, tell me that you are a really good advisor, you really understand me? About one thing I do is, I, I know that I have to protect my energy. Because if I can protect my energy, then my advice to others, or my understanding to them, will be mixed with maybe too much emotions and too much things. But it doesn't mean I like sometimes like, I like to hug my friends. And we cried together or, or I like to watch a sad movie and fill things in the shoes in the shoe of the main character.
Abdulaziz M Alhamdan 6:59
Thank you that sounds. And so I'll ask you about dressing up. Tell me more about that. How did you discover your love for it? Did you try maybe cosplay or hear about it and fall in love? Is it more of a glamour thing where you tried to be Marilyn Monroe, or something like that? Or what are the emotions, the aesthetics, the expressions, of your fascination with dressing up
Enkhjin Purevsukh 7:28
for the dressing up is not about cosplay or imitating other people. It's just for me, and Bill and myself appreciating my feminine side, I like to try new clothes for my pleasure. And for my aesthetic. Or recently I am practicing to just accept myself accepting my body face, which is full of pimples, and my body skin, which has a normal body hair, I just appreciating my body and try to accept my self, the way I exist. Without any makeup without any clothes is just me. I think dressing up as stars with my anxiety problems. Like when I go out without makeup or without the clothes or athlete that I want to do where I just so I just felt so anxious and not enough. But eventually, when I started to work on myself, I just started to really, really poorly enjoy dressing up. But for now, I just try not to spend too much time on my appearance. instead. I can just like go out with the clothes that I wear because they don't really matter. As long as I have the right mental mindset to feel myself like I'm living the main character in his life.
Abdulaziz M Alhamdan 9:17
I like that. Yes, self love is absolutely essential and missing nowadays, as well as being the main character in your own story. And I'll ask you you said when you dress up, you express your feminine side. Can you speak more about that? What is to you? Your feminine side? What does it mean the feminine side of women in general? Can you explore that topic
Enkhjin Purevsukh 9:51
and my opinion of feminine is not only for women because I think appreciating my feminine side is winning what I like putting what I like, and moving with the flow of life, as well as embracing my creativity, embracing my energy and healing myself letting go of the bat memories, and dancing around the house, singing loudly in my room. And I think everyone should nurtured feminine side. I think they're, like, so many men tend to be the support toxic masculinity. Like, they don't really take care of themselves, even their skin, like they think that it's taking care of their skin. Makes them so feminine. So I think appreciating feminine T is for everyone.
Abdulaziz M Alhamdan 11:04
I agree 100%. And now that you're studying being the best freshmen that you can be, can you tell the story? How did you choose your specific university? What inspired you about it? And how was that experience? Compared to high school? What did you notice is similar or different
Enkhjin Purevsukh 11:31
about Duke Kunshan University. It's a Chinese American partner ship off Duke University, which is located in North Carolina, United States, and will Han University in China to create liberal arts and the research university offering academic programs for students from China and throughout the world. And one of the specific reasons why I chose Duke Christian University is, is it's a young university, but it's, it has a really long history, which is related to bought Duke and Wuhan University. So I think it has really, it has the potential to grow, and more and more, and it's already started to showing those ACOP accomplishment and achievement from the recent graduate class. And also diversity. Cuz, like, there are so many people from maybe 50 or 60 different countries, so I will vote in my heart and, and maybe answer the questions that I never ever considered, and that I never ever thought I can answer them before. And this year, I'm a freshman. And I, I think I'm really challenging myself, both in academics and in management, self management, things. Like the MA MA The month of the most challenging that I Bayes is catching up with the readings, because I feel like my academic English is not really good. So I have to like read 60 to 60. It's like, approximately 60 pages every week. So it's been one of the hardest thing that I've faced in university life, but I think I'm doing good. I'm learning new words, I found my way to understand the long tax. And additionally, I'm really enjoying my beginner China's class. Like, I think I'm really passionate about learning how to speak in Chinese.
Abdulaziz M Alhamdan 14:27
Thank you. So how do you describe a life of foreigner who doesn't speak Chinese adapting to the culture there? How do you immerse yourself into the connections with the place with the people? Was it a different culture shock when you moved there? Tell me more all about that.
Enkhjin Purevsukh 14:55
So currently, I'm in my home country and and I will be in the, in the convention campus, maybe in December. So I don't, I can't really answer the question about the environment and being a foreigner in, in different countries. So, but one thing that I, I can answer is, I realized that I have to be very, very open minded, because there are so many people and who are from different backgrounds, who are brought up in the way that is so distinctive, from my way. So I have to be really open minded and under understanding, because it's okay to be not understand. And it's okay to be open minded, and it's okay to be give up to opinions that you truly believe. And this okay to protect your opinions in the acceptable way. So, that's how I'm engaging with the people. And it's not really hard for me, currently, maybe in China, but when I get there, it's maybe difficult, as I'm expecting, because I'd asked speak Chinese. And I may have faced though little challenges, like ordering food or things like that, and I'm really positive about the people and going to University in China.
Abdulaziz M Alhamdan 16:49
Thank you. That's so interesting. And before we finish this, you know, you're going through a period of transition, you're growing, exploring cultures of the world and immersing yourself into poetry into everything, what seems to be a lesson, or an idea that you have understood about how to live that is important for you, and that you can share with others right now,
Enkhjin Purevsukh 17:23
one of the things that I realized from my life, and my 90 news that living in this world, and my poetry's and my journal is that accepting the situation and accepting who you are, for example, before like, I never send my parents because they moved to another city when I was a little girl, even though I know them, they are my parents, and they are alive. And we connect to each other to the internet, I used to question the situation like, why did they do it to me like, like, why, but in residence, maybe four or five years, I just accepted the situation like, it is what it is, I can change the past. And I can really change things when I know the answer of the why question. So I just accept that it. And instead, I am trying to and we are trying to connect deeply to the internet. And the next next time is maybe being curious about anything. Cuz I think truest sense of living comes from curiosity, and child like mine mind, because when I face something that I don't really know, not caring about. Currently, I tried to like, search it and like, what is that? Why does it do that? And it just adds my life and comp come complement. And when I search for things in wonder, wonder the Wonder their existence, they tend to, they tend to make me arise new concepts, ideas, likes and dislikes, and by being open to change and approaching new things with a child I mind it. I think it's the beginning of being true to yourself and fully embracing my self.
Abdulaziz M Alhamdan 20:10
Thank you so much engine. This was my privilege, my honor. Such a wonderful way to understand you to know more about yourself to share your soul and voice with humanity and with the world. I wish you success. I wish you great good vibes. And thank you again.
Enkhjin Purevsukh 20:36
Thank you for inviting me to participate your project. I am so honored to share my stories.
