Episode Transcript
Hello, my name is Aziz and I'm the son of a divorced mother. She's really my superhero. That's why it's important for me to support women to share their uniqueness, their personalities, perspectives, and emotions about life. Too many women in this world feel alone. They worry about the judgment of others and they struggle with their mental health, but when they listen to the Rare Girls podcast where empowered women share their voices and tell their stories, many women will feel inspired to live a life of freedom and to overcome all insecurities. They will feel it is a safe space to find their confidence, to remember their unique beauty and to feel their self-worth. And they will connect with the sisterhood of rare girls who encourage their success and support their dreams. That's what this podcast is all about. My guest today is Osmarie Corridor. Osmarie is originally from Venezuela, lived before in Colombia since she was 18 years old and currently living for one and a half years in Dubai, United Arab Emirates. Osmarie is a bartender, a mixologist, a top 10 coin troll 2023, a lover of making handmade accessories and a single mother of one boy that is seven years old. Osmarie, how are you today? Wow, wow, I'm very, very happy and really very excited for this opportunity to have one moment for myself and to talk something completely different. Thank you for this opportunity. Really, I was waiting for a long time for half this moment. I was very excited, super happy. And you, how is everything? I feel blessed. I'm very excited as well. We have been waiting for this episode for a while. So it's all about you. I'm happy to hear you, to share your voice and to know more. So I'll begin with this nice first question, which is, "Osmarie, if your friends and the people who know you best could describe your personality, what would they say about you and will it be different in Colombia compared to Dubai? Are you a girl with a different personality in Dubai or are you the same?" Wow. Okay. Well, for example, here I have one funny name with the name, the guys called me "Practic" and it's because when I was super new here in Dubai actually, an improvement in one and a half year and improved my English here in South America, we are an American person like okay we speak Spanish so you come here you need to speak Spanish we don't need to speak English so the guy told me like this because I am the person like never saying no for anything I like to learn, I like to practice. So actually, of course, I was very new here in Dubai, so it's completely different in my life. It's a different mentality, different world for improving yourself. So the guy when I was super new in my company, I said to the guys, "Okay, don't worry, I don't know to do this one, but I'll come early, I'll re-practice." So the guys, "Okay, okay, how? Practice, practice, practice. It was like, I think it's my name for love with my team. I am the only girl in my company. I am working with only guys. So, well, the guys can see myself. I am very persistent girl. Very funny, very honest. I have my character. This is, I think it's the first of coming very different from Colombia to here. In Colombia, it's easy. You say in your opinion, you don't care, it's man. You say, what do you think? I think here the people seen two times, like, okay, let's wait one moment. I will come back to you. And so the America, we say everything of the moment, like, okay, no, I don't like this one, because that's it. So this is one thing I come to say is that for me, the first example was the difference in style of life between South America and here in Dubai. But also it's great because I think it's better to learn how to think before to say something is better. I really am very happy to learn this one right now in my life. But yeah, it's, oh well, many things is complete differences in their life. I was in Cartagena, it's caribbean. So yeah, it's more a free-style life. You need to think only about today, tomorrow is tomorrow. So yeah, this is one thing is very different, but it's the balance, I think. - Thank you. I actually have three questions 'cause it's so fascinating and exciting. And I'll begin with this one because you seem to be, like you said, you're open-minded, you're willing to try to be persistent to practice. There are a lot of women who maybe have learned or have their own anxiety and they worry and they think, "Oh, if I make a mistake, it means I'm a bad girl." Or if I practice, then people will laugh at me and then my colleagues will never forget that I was bad. And they stay without practicing, without learning new things too much, except maybe reading books and romance novels, but skills like that. What motivates you and gives you the courage so that you do it, even if you could make mistakes? And what's your advice to women who maybe are not comfortable with that? Well, I think the best form for to learn is when you make mistakes. I really, after this, it's depends like what, how do you think anything's situation. But when you have this positive mentality, you need to believe in yourself. You need to believe in yourself. You, you know, this is the life. Like when you have some dreams and really you are full of these dreams, you need to know that for sure you will have many different situations. But if you believe in yourself and you say, "Hey, it's in my self, it's because it's for me," I will work for that. Okay, it's coming mistake, first mistake. Okay, I will try to do different. Second mistake. Okay, I will try to do different. And in one moment, the light give you what you was looking for. I think this is the more important because it's true. I always say the mentality that we have is the best friend or more terrible relationship like I'm using this style. time I think the woman because exactly we listen a lot what another people say, what another person thinks about us, we don't give this power like hey I am life you know. I am single mom for example, I have 26 years, my kid is seven already. I think I have this situation of course I can with everything. I make life. I take one baby, you know, nine months. This is one experience. I think change everything in your life. After this, you're saying you can't with everything. You can't with everything. The more important, believe in yourself. Believe in whatever dreams that you have. For more stupid than other person saying to you, "Oh, this is stupid. This is It's bullshit. Okay, it's the opinion I respect, but I have my idea. So I will follow what I feel, what I think. So all these possibilities come in your life for sure. Thank you. I love that mindset. And even before that, you said that if you do what you are interested in and you stay persistent, life will give you what you're supposed to get. Well, what gives you that belief? Is it maybe a religion you have faith and you think God will always protect you? Is it more like manifesting and you think that positive energy attracts good energy? Is it that you believe you have a destiny and you're born to be like a princess or a queen? Or how do you have that so that you are able to say, thinking positively and have faith that the future will be positive for you? Well, I don't believe in coincidence. I believe in God. Maybe not follow. I don't have religion. My family is Catholic, but I don't believe in religion because also many people, you know, they have Catholic do bad things. So I believe in I think, yes, they are something more big ones, and for that we have experienced the life. I think they say this positive energy, all manifestation, everything is good. It's one example of how we can imagine this, I don't know, this energy or this sorrow anyway. But I believe that we come in this life for be better, for evolution. This is part of the history. I was actually studying anthropology. Always I feel very curious, and these worlds have many millions, millions of years ago, and it's for one big reason for sure. It's for nothing. For example, this opportunity to come here in Dubai. It was in one moment in my life and gave me amazing opportunities. It was for one big person. I believe in this. I think that life is beautiful. You know how you feel, you love, you care, how we are the humans. This is the secret when we are humans. So yeah, The first God is in in yourself. If for that to say, you need to take care first about yourself. This is the more important and God is inside to you and you for sure. 100% I agree with you and I love that way of thinking. You said that God is within yourself. You said that you give life and you have a boy who is seven years old and you are 26. Well, do you think that you always had the strong thinking and mindset that you are always a strong woman? Or is it because when you were 18 and you had a baby and gave life that changed you and made you a lot more of a fighter and stronger like that? How do you say it? That it was you, you were always going to be even without having a baby boy, you would have been a positive and strong woman, or that experience was a big, big reason why you are positive and you try new things and persist today. Well, to be honest, I think when I was more, I was very young, I was always with big character, but I think it's because in this moment I was really scared to show my more sensitive self pink. So yeah, for example, you know, in my house, I remember always I was and tried to go show with my parents that I am well, I am the second I have one brother, my mom, she was in love with my brother always. So I was always trying to do something like, hey, mom, I do something. Okay, it was like, okay, it's okay. But no, wow. So I think I start to make me more strong because in the beginning, yeah, I was with the idea that I don't want the people looking me like sensitive or shy or with a scare. So in the beginning, to be honest, I was making one person but it wasn't real myself. After my baby, yeah, my baby was the more big blending my life. Like after half the situation, exactly when I was pregnant, I started this situation in Venezuela. So I decided to move pregnant to another country with no job and nothing. And when I happened on this situation in my life, but anyway, I exactly, I was focused. And the only think, okay, it's coming one another person, you know, it's not only you need to look for you, another person, it cannot do nothing of you. So and it starts to upset or also to understand everything in myself. This is the balance. Every person have you white part and we have dark part. sometimes for all the people around you to try to escape, to say, "Oh no, I want to do this one, but I don't want to accept that I am this style." So after a big moment, I say, "Okay, it's true, I'm a sensitive person. I'm very sensitive, so I can cry for everything." But this is no reason for a stop or for don't believe I can do this one. Like I can't cry, I can't be upset in one moment, but after talking with myself, say, okay, what's okay, it's happened. What you learn, what you need to do now, and let's continue. I understand and thank you for that. And as you said, you are someone who moved and started a new life in Cartagena and now a new life for a year and a half in Dubai. Each time you meet new people, you make new friends. Well, there are some women who maybe it's their first time, maybe they're moving to go live in Dubai, they don't have friends there or to Colombia or anywhere. And sometimes some people are good actors, they know how to be like narcissist, oh seem nice, but they have like they're going to betray or do something bad. When you meet someone new, how do you know which is a good person and which one is not a good person, but they have good acting skills and they can pretend to be nice and maybe other women can learn from your experience so that they make real good friends instead of being deceived by the wrong people. I think they will see the action. Yeah, exactly. I am very new here and they start to know people. And for example, for me, well, I have the person that maybe I like to open conversation, but also I like to listen a lot. Maybe when I listen, or I can see the one person make fun to another, but in the behind of this action, really, I think it's something like like, "Cero, human," like, "Cero, honest." It may actually, I prefer to discard. Like, I think it's very important for women because we are more sensitive, too. This is also, like, I think it's the balance between men and women. They're not, the word is perfect. And it's because we are sensitive. So the more important is always to look around, it looks what the people do, maybe not to you directly, because never it will be like this in the bikini. Like with you or the people it would be super nice. But you need to check what these people do with another person when it's to you. So my mom always told me this, my mom is like, oh, mom, if you see this person talk about another person, Trust me, in whatever moment, he will do the same to you. So, I personally, I like to listen in the weekend. I prefer to talk a lot about myself. I prefer to listen, yeah, to check how it's going on. But this is something I really like here in Dubai. Like the people here are spreading good energy. I think maybe because exactly they are mentality, they are very strong relation as well. So the people follow and they are different in their lifestyle. So here with all the energy with the people to be honest, it's very, very positive. I like that. And I'm very, very happy for you. And you have lived in Venezuela and in the nightlife scene in Cartagena and now in Dubai in the bar where you see many beautiful women. And there are many girls who look in Instagram and compare themselves to other women and they don't feel beautiful. They feel ugly. Did you also have such a situation where you looked at first at other women and thought, wow, she looks so nice and all that. And how, what did you do? How did you find your own confidence and belief in your own beauty without losing it? And your advice to girls and women who maybe are feeling bad and sad because they look at other women and compare themselves. Yeah, well, for example, this is one situation I have because in my work, my uniform is very masculine. So of course, my restaurant is coming, beautiful woman, you know, super pretty, super feminine. And in the moment, maybe I don't feel bad because I am the person like every day in my life when I wake up and take the shower and say to myself I am beautiful I am one queen I really was oh so beautiful you are always and try to say to myself the what is special I am because you know every person we have you we are beautiful they are only different styles. You can maybe one person for you is ready for another. No, it's different opinion but you need to give this love every day to you. So when I'm so beautiful girl and beautiful dress I am that person I always say I love this dress. Oh it's so beautiful. Maybe I think I can look beautiful as well. This is what I'm trying to think in this moment, you know? Not try to compare and try to say, "Oh, she's beautiful." The same because it is with noise secret. Like they are in this world, they are mainly, many beautiful models, nieces, and the person like follow many thickness woman, and appeal admiration, you know? It's like, I don't want not to think, Oh, it's competition. Or I am more ugly. No, maybe I can't. I wanted to sing that. OK, I feel-- I feel admiration for this and other person. Now I can work for the same. What I need to do, I need to make this for maybe, oh, why not? One moment for myself, I go away with one beauty salon. I want to change my look. Because this is the point when I told you about the love that we need to give is very important. Like, for example, yes, you can have boyfriends, you can have husband, kids, and you give always. Women, we give. We make food, we clean the house, we try to show you, wash the clothing. But so for you, what do you give to you? What do you try to give to you? So I am also because, for example, it's a cleverest zone. And after my baby, my body was the same. And for me, it was very difficult because I was in my 18, 19. I was like, oh my god, my life is tard. Already my body is completely different. But I'm trying to make this exercise. And really, I watched my body outclosing in the mirror. and try to dance in front of me, you know, like playing music. And I start to watch what I like. Oh, I like my eyes. I like my noise. I like my my movies. So I know this is try to to give love to you. No. What do you want? Another person saying to you. First one, you need to say and you need to believe. So when you start to repeat in yourself every day, I am beautiful, I am strong. Trust me, in whatever moment, you will start, the people will start looking to you the same because it's energy. When you believe in yourself and you say, "Oh, wow, I am so beautiful," trust me, the people start to look in the same way. This is a very good example because I don't know if maybe for you it happens the same way. You feel sad? I don't know. everything around yours is bad. Like there is how many mistakes are, oh my god, there is coming very black, or something but why only one feeling sad and everything around myself start the same. So when you start to understand this one, you have the power to change, to change every day. Like, I really, I believe too much in this. Like, I believe, yeah, I'm practicing this one. I like to read many books about how we can feel more confident because exactly, I know this superwoman that I don't feel this one. Of course I can feel, of course I've made many times I cry and say, wow, wait, I don't have this one. I want to be nice. I want to have my perfect body. But why should I start looking? What do you have already? Unappreciate. After all around yours, it will do the same. Self-love is very, very important. I agree with you Osmarie that self-love makes the world very, very different. You spoke about energy before that. You spoke about feminine energy and masculine energy. Sometimes for you, you have to do your job, you have to do things to take care of your baby, and you have to be in your masculine energy. I interviewed a woman who said, "Well, I need to be like always achieving, always doing things, but it's so exhausting. I wish I could be more in my feminine energy." How do you balance both? Do you feel the same? And even for other women, maybe they are curious to understand what is for you feminine energy and what is for you your masculine energy. Well, my feminine energy is when I give love, I give attention, and when I am very I try to understand everything what happened around myself because this is the when exactly this when you start to be mom, you understand that these feminine parts exactly is protection, is the care, is love. So for example, you start to wait one simple thing like is a smile when you saw another person give one good morning and a smile. This is one feminine part. - Must be like half, exactly. My word is super difficult. Like you word about tenderness only make cocktails. I need to refill ice, I need to boxes, cream boxes. No, I mean it's like, oh my God, my body say, I can most more, but I love it. I love it. My dream is I wanna have my bar, but it's difficult. But I'm trying the same moment when I am around males and I do my job, I am not close to say, "Hey, I need help." This is also, I'm trying to give, but women, when you try to give a lot, also it's the danger when you start a lot with the masculine energy, because masculine energy is also good in another style, but this is also the masculine roles. So when you also try to say, I wanna receive, oh, I need help. Hey, can you, sorry, can you help me with this? Hey, can you? Also you try to start in this balance that you need to understand, you need to respect that you are woman and you cannot compare with another guy. So I'm try, I, the person came in meditation before go to sleep I'm trying to take my time. I told you, for example, in the morning when I take my shower, I only had my moment. I live with my boyfriend, but always he knows I need my time. So I close the door. I play music. I started giving my moment meditation, but with words, to send positive to me, I listen to my music. I'm trying to take care always about myself. This one, it wasn't it can start doing recently, to be honest, before when my baby was more, more child, it was, I was in total best control, like not take care about myself. Always I was focused and give, I need to work for it, I need to pay, I need to be complete lost with this part. So I was sad, I was super sad. And then I start to follow, I start to listen recommendation, and start to look about how you can get balance in yourself. And the more important is you need to do. You need to do it every day. This is one word every day. - I agree 100%. Thank you so much, Osmarie. It was my privilege and my honor to have you in this podcast to share your wisdom, experience, and voice. I wish you all the success. I wish your baby all the happiness and for you to own and start your bar, even if it's difficult, I believe in you. - Thank you so much, Andreyli. This, what are you doing is beautiful. I think they are for sure millions of person in women's. You wanna say a little bit about yourself because this world is still with one mentality. (upbeat music) (upbeat music) (upbeat music)
