Episode Transcript
Hello, my name is Aziz and I'm the son of a divorced mother. She is really my superhero. That's why it's important for me to support women to share their uniqueness, their personalities, perspectives, and emotions about life. Too many women in this world feel alone. They worry about the judgment of others and they struggle with their mental health but when they listen to the Rare Girls podcast where empowered women share their voices and tell their stories many women will feel, inspired to live a life of freedom and to overcome all insecurities, they will feel, it is a safe space to find, their confidence to remember their unique beauty and to feel their self worth and they will connect with the sisterhood of rare girls who encourage their success and support their dreams. That's what this podcast is all about. My guest today is Emine Baxpinar. Emine was born and lived in Turkey. She is a primary school teacher. She did her master's degree in Turkey. She loves children, sharing with them. She enjoys reading psychology and philosophy, books, working, discovering new cultures and teaching are the thing that makes her very, very happy. Emine, how are you today? - Hello Aziz, thank you so much. I'm really good and excited. How are you? - I feel blessed. I feel super, super positive and looking forward to know much more about you. So I'll begin with this nice first question. Emine, if your friends can describe your personality, what would they say about you? - This is a really good question. I really care about people and especially the people that's surrounding me. they are my friends. And they think I'm a person who loving life care about all souls. Love to learn, of course, good researcher, animal lover. It's important to me because I have a pet. It's a dog. And I might add kind, intelligent, wise person, determinant, I miss both. And I heard hard working. Thank you so much, Emine. I love that answer very, very much. And I have a question. You have lived in different parts of Europe. I'm aware of that since you love traveling a lot. How was your experience of adapting to new cultures, visiting new places? I know that you love that very much. Can you describe that a little bit? Thank you, thank you for this question, Aziz. And adapting to a new culture is difficult for me. And I'm a person who likes the comfort of home and enjoys the comfort zone. But I think I have overcome this feature in a few experiences. And I realized that I can stay in shared houses in apartments, in hotels. I had a great time meeting new people and I thought it didn't scare me and it was the first step in my experience of, can I say this self discovery, facing my fears has improved me, as I said. You are afraid of starving in a new place, afraid of being broke, afraid of not being able to communicate. I'm scared. Then I said, what is the worst that could happen, Emine? I often remind myself of this phrase. I will tell my friends, too. And they like it. You can ask yourself the question of what can be the worst thing to experience in your most difficult moments. If you intend to discover yourself and live your life to the fullest, sometimes it's not right to think about the end. That's it. I love meeting people. also important to me to establish deep bonds. Deep bonds is important to me. I have developed beautiful and lasting friendships with people of many nationalities I have met. I love meeting people it's also important to me establish deep bonds. I have developed beautiful and lasting friendships with people of many nationalities I have met. It was a bit of a challenge for a shy person like me because confidence is an important emotion for me. I want to develop close relationships with people so that I can trust them. Thank you, that's very very important and it makes me think and ask about you, well, what's your advice to women, you as a shy person, so that they can be more brave and able to take risks in life, overcome anxiety, be out of their comfort zone, and even if they are shy, they can live a more exciting, bigger life? Okay, I want to tell my ex some experiences and I live alone and it was very enjoyable and interactive to live in the same houses with different people from different cultures. And I'm a shy person, but for example, I lived in the same room with a far as Turner for several months. For example, our food, our religion, even our clothes were different. She was a shy person, I'm shy, but we were a good match. And every evening we would chat about them and try to get to know each other. Sometimes we will chat about even word politics. She would ask me about religions and rituals. These experiences were invaluable for me. We cooked cultural meals for each other. It was better than eating cultural food than any restaurants. That's it. Comfort zone is very important to me, especially during a trip the level of anxiety in my body rises if I'm going on a trip I never take medicine. Drugs that reduce this sense of anxiety for a short time don't provide long-term motivation. I take deep breaths and rely on myself. I focus on raising my energy. The best way to motivate myself is to know that as a woman I don't need anyone and if anxiety and stress don't make you bigger they consume you. If you step out your comfort you feel like you have grown, right? It's necessary to live in the moment, be open to innovations except what life brings and changing my routines is also away from me and as an advice. Doing activities that will increase my motivation distracts me from negative emotions and I discover myself when I step out of comfort. This is renewed with every experience. Of course in a new comfort zone I create small comfort zones for myself. I'm always ready for challenges. I don't give up easily and I don't get upset. It's a comforting feeling to accept things as they are. I have learned to deal with feelings not being liked and not being approved. Accepting the offers and experiences were important steps for me. Thank you again, Emi-Nay. And how do you overcome the instinct to compare yourself to beautiful women on social media or even in Turkey? Turkey has many beautiful women. And how do you find your own unique beauty, even though you might look at other girls, and give some advice, if you have, to other women all over the world, how they can feel their confidence and their beauty without comparing to other women? Thank you for this question because it's a very good question and everyone should ask herself. Every woman who uses social media voluntarily compares herself to other women and especially recently making money on social media platforms has made this a race. This is a trap for me. And although it's enjoyable to watch someone else's life, watching beliefs that seem perfect makes women unhappy. And on the contrary, it's necessary to focus on our own lives and share photos and videos in a healthy way. In fact, this situation is related to one's self-esteem. Every person is different. Every woman's story is different. This is the first thing we must accept. In my opinion, every woman is unique and perfect. In my culture, in Turkey, women have always been prominent. Thanks to this culture I learned from my family, and I feel unique and beautiful and I don't need to anything. My parents always care and support my requests. This is the most important factor in my being an independent and successful woman. And as a teacher I want to say something and this is the sentence always say to my girls and I'm talking about my students and my girls. You are all unique and special. You will be happy, independent and successful woman when you grow up. Never forget this. Don't be anyone's shadow. Read every day and improve yourself in every fight. Become the strong woman of the future. your body is your is on yours. Be healthy and protect your body by doing sports. In order to achieve the appearances of their dreams, women do diets and sports or some aesthetic operation. I want to say something about this topic. As a result of wrong aesthetic operations, they may be people who get many infections, get sick or have damaged their bodies. It's now very difficult to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy. We must accept our body and know how to say no to things that do not come to it. Thus, we will be at peace with our bodies and become happier people. We are not bound by standards. Our flaws make us who we are. That's my motto. Thank you, Aminé. That's very, very interesting. And it just makes me think of the next question that I really, really want to ask you, which is, what is your advice for other women to find the right friends because you are more shy so you have less friends and then you choose better ones and what are the characteristics you look for in good friends for you? It's a difficult question for me. I made many friends when I moved to any place or traveled. I have had short-term friendships with some of them and some for a long time. I just became myself. How can I say? I'm acting myself. When you are yourself, others see UNs sincere and want intimacy. Many people overlooked the fact that friendship is a natural need. Even as adults, many people are shy or even reluctant to engage with people about having a good time together and sharing feelings. Even if people are emotionally Lonely, they avoid forming new social bonds for fear of being misunderstood. And first, we can start by establishing daily conversations. Trust your feelings and make new offers to people you want to be friends. Many people are so lonely that they accept these offers, trust me, and communicate more often. If you think they're interested in you, talk about your old friends, about them and listen to their opinions. Because sometimes the people who know you best than you are your friends. And another one, be helpful and friendly. Don't be biased unless you notice any danger. Remember if you are positive you will meet positive people. If you are negative you will meet negative people. Energy is like that for me and don't be afraid to ask for help when you move to a new place. Sharing is very important to relationships, I think. The best friends for me is the one in which I feel safe. Safe, yes. I think trusting someone is the highest level of emotion. And we are always sincere, open and honest with each other. Even if We have arguments and disagreements from time to time. Sometimes they make an effort to repair our relationship and a few of my friendships ended because I couldn't see their efforts. And this is the sad thing. All were women and they are there for me not only in difficult times but also in good times. The important thing in friendship is to support that person on a good day and celebrate their success. That's the hard thing. In bad times, many people around you will be with you, but this is not very important if a person can appreciate your success and strength and be happy. That person is your true friend or be your true friend. Good friends can make one's life more meaningful and fulfilling. True friends support each other. This is my opinion. They are honest and respectful. They occupy an important place in each other's lives and form memories that will last a lifetime. And an endless thanks to my friends who are in my life and who can be happy with me. Thank you, Emine. I really needed to think about that and everything that you said is very, very important. And before we finish, I have one more question. To know even more about you, what are your future plans and goals? How do you keep yourself optimistic about them, although you're shy? Is it something that I don't know I can guess related to children or to pets? How do you see your future? Now you're living alone. What are your future goals and plans in life? My future plans, of course, include having a good career. I love my job very much. my passion to be with children and produce things with them. There will definitely be children in my future, of course pets too, dogs, cats. It's my aim to work for the children of this world, not only in Turkey but wherever they are in the world to prepare them for the future regardless of language, religion or geography, because I learned this, be human. I can take this training further, it's not just academic, because I'm talking about of course getting something paper It is important. I will do something beyond that. One of the things I want most is the volunteer with disadvantaged children. Because money should not be paid for everything we do in this world. And I have worked on several voluntary projects. I can do this anywhere in the world. Yeah, I believe myself. We have a lot to learn from each other. Children teach me different things every day, every day, every day, every day. I wake up, they learn me a lot of things. Thanks to them, I gain new perspectives. I'm proud to be a role model of for them. I consider myself optimistic because children always admire you. When you support and appreciate them, your world becomes a different place. As I said, they have everything that is good for me. If you give love, you will receive love. If you respect, you will get respect. And imagine walking in a flower garden every day. And this is my dream. The water is in your hands. And you will realize how lucky I am. Thank you so much, Amy. It was my privilege and my honor to interview you, to hear your voice and all your thoughts and interesting perspectives. I wish you all of the success. I wish you all of the glory. I say hello to your pet, to your dog and your family. And I wish you all the success in life. Thank you. - Thank you so much for inviting me and listening. I hope those who will listen will enjoy it, especially women. Thank you so much. - You are welcome. (upbeat music) (upbeat music) (upbeat music)
