Episode Transcript
Hello, my name is Aziz and I'm the son of a divorce mother she is really my superhero that's why it's important for me to support women to share their unique now better personalities, perspectives, and emotions about this world in these difficult times in human history we need to bring the people of the world together, and when we hear the voices of women when we listen to real life, so for women from other countries, we connect our cultures without differences or stereotypes, and we get inspired by their stories to live a better life
That's what this podcast is all about my gas. Today is Sha'Carri Zaida Mahmoud Shakari Zaida is a casa female entrepreneurial living in Istanbul Türkiye. She loves pole dance and high heels Dan's sports shooting and horse riding Sahibzada. How are you today? Hello Aziz thank you for having me first of all, I am I am very cool I'm very fine thank you. How are you? I feel grateful I feel very very happy to be alive enjoying this adventure of life and getting to know so many cool and interesting people and very curious about you, so I'll begin with this nice first question, which is.
If you the people that know your best, Chasity zydeco describe your personality. What would they say about you well, first of all I think people who know me best they would say that I am I'm very warm. I am very helpful. I really like helping people when they're struggling having problems in their lives and I'm kind what else I am I they would also say that I'm an Overthinker I I think a lot even when I'm sleeping my brain is working all the time.
What else they would say I think mom they would say that I love I'm really connected with my family because a family is very important to me. They would also say that I am that I'm an introvert yeah 100% because
I can't say that actually, I am a sociable person, but not too much. I prefer to have several friends instead of you know having a lots lots of friends I prefer to have several ones and to spend quality like a really good footage of type time with them and I love also spending time at my home. I love being at home.
What else they would say and I think they would say that I'm an independent woman yeah I guess that's all thank you I love all those answers and it makes me think because you're an introvert although you're sociable, you let yourselves only be connected or bonded to a few people you're going for quality over quantity your love to help people, etc. in someways that can make some women like people pleasers on able to put boundaries and to stand for themselves. Have you ever struggled with this did you solve it? What's your perspective on such issue of sometimes being a people pleaser whether you sacrifice yourself or others but sometimes you end up disappointed and hurt will you know?
Mom used to tell about boundaries I really can protect them but it's of course like I was not like this since I was born let's say like for example at university I had actually I was struggling a lot because I how do you say I had a lot of experience when I trust when I start to trust people, and then they end up hurting me, but say, and with all that experience, you know he's gathering, and that's why I like, after all that experience, as I learned how to protect you know myself
And then do you know actually, I can sacrifice myself for other people, but only for those people who I care about for really close friends my family, some of my relatives for example, but like let's have a good fort for people home
With whom I just like see from time to time but say I will not be sacrificing myself and right now I think that I'm really good at keeping my boundaries and you know the protecting myself but sometimes I think that I'm making it too much because when I meet new people I am it's hard for me to trust to someone you know a person who is meeting me for the first time like this with you know
I don't know how to explain they should gain my trust and it takes actually some time. Yeah thank you I understand fully and for some reason I imagine that this is somehow related to shooting because you think it's a very strong kind of activity is it did you begin shooting which helped you become a stronger person more able to set boundaries because you're dealing with fire arms etc. or is it the opposite of this stronger you'll become the more you appreciate the strength of an activity like shooting or how did that story happen and what did you appreciate most about the activity? Oh nice question actually thank you for this question. Actually shooting is my hobby but it's not about keeping boundaries or something I just like it and
One of the best one of the first things in my life that I really what is important for me is my freedom so when I shoot when I ride a horse when I dance, I feel myself really feet it helps me too. How do you say to feel this freedom like 100% and also from time to time I need to.
How do you say? For example, I have lots of emotions that say negative emotions in me that I cannot all these negative emotions they should go somewhere and when I do shooting and when I do riding or riding horses so actually I am I getting rid of all that negative emotion so I understand so it's somehow offer therapy correctly and it is a therapy for me and how different is it to horse riding and dealing with horses do you see it more for example, dealing with horses as an activity that calms you down that is more about your feminine side if you might say or is it also that you feel like you're a warrior from the old times, riding your horse and having your gun or weapon and conquering the world do you know Actually.
Oh, I love horses since it's my childhood because you know in my country in Kazakhstan actually people like in the past they used to use horses a lot because they were not when they were no transportation they used horses and the transportation so I think it's actually in my blood that I like it and I love also I love animals. I don't have any domestic animals like I don't have a cat I don't have a dog because I think it's a really.
You need to take responsibility for that and I'm not ready for that yet, so that's why I go riding a horse and I also love being with with an animal you know when you see it like are you feel yourself close with the nature with the world and they're so clever animals actually when you find a really hard to say
When you find a connection between me when I find a connection between me and the horse that I'm going to ride it, it's really good you know and then of course another part is that sweet of my feel free and I feel how do you say wilds you know I feel as if I'm when I'm riding a horse I feel as if I'm alone in this world I'm just riding you know I have my horse I'm strong and powerful so if something like that I guess thank you so if I understood you correctly when you meet new people you're more reserved and a bit harsh putting them a bit far but when it comes to the horses you can connect yourself and open up deeply. Why could this be is it because like I interviewed some girls that say well animals always have good intentions by people sometimes not are.
One girl said a who is vegan she said I love animals more than people lol is this your situation or how is that related because you're showing two sides to your personality one that has strong boundaries when it comes to people and one that is very open when it comes to animals and horses will very good question I think that it is my way to keep the balance maybe because you know
When I meet new people as a said, yeah I have my boundaries. I don't let people Leica to to cross them. I like them it takes some time you know to make a really good connection with someone but with animals is easier because animals really they they also they always have good intentions. If you're good to them, they feel it in animals they can feel you they can feel your intentions and they can feel how you feel. For example, if I go.
Eat a new horse and if I am afraid of the horse and it can fill you know and it will not. It will not allow me to ride it so something like this and yeah, as I said, it's in my way to keep the balance and animals understand actually people and animals will not hurt you or something thank you. That's a really interesting perspective and it makes me also want to see you no more or so for example, moving from Kazakhstan to live in Istanbul. How was the decision? What's the story behind that and especially that you mentioned how important family is for you? How was that decision that separates you and puts distance between you and the family well, you know this is stories not interesting at all actually but
