Episode Transcript
Thank you. I love that. And I have many, many, many questions.
One of them, you mentioned that it's important for you, it seems, to be a good listener who is there
to listen to people. Explain to me the dynamic, because some people will say two things. One,
if you're listening while you're taking on the negative energy of other people, you're being a
martyr, sacrificing yourself for them. And some others who maybe are not so emotionally attuned
might say if you listen, it's not action, it doesn't change anything. So why waste time
listening? So what would you say to such people? Well, you know, I would say that it depends on
every person how you like to be with other people. Because this, this thing of listening to others
problems is not for everyone, you know, because when you have too many problems in your life,
you, you just can't control your feelings about the others. And it's, it can be sometimes so
hard to take all this bad energy, because yeah, it's a bad energy that is coming upon you when
you listen to the others. But, you know, I want to be a psychologist, so I need to do that.
I love that so, so much. And even before we dive into your interest in psychology,
how does art relate to your interest in human beings and kindness and being loyal?
Are you feeling that you're sharing good emotions or helping people escape their pain with your art,
or is it a totally different perspective? Well, it depends. Some of my artworks,
you know, are just, are just for seeing, are just for your vision, it's just something beautiful
that you're looking at. That doesn't really mean it has to help you with something. But yes,
I also have some paintings that, you know, maybe can share with you some emotions,
and you can drive through them, but I do really based on that.
Thank you. And you spoke about psychology and your interest in that. Where does that come from?
Like I'm imagining the origin of the idea, you did not just wake up one day and you're like,
psychology, let's go. Like, did you watch a character in a movie? Did you know someone
who benefited from psychology? Is it for you that you're so fascinated by humans,
you want to spend all your time listening as much as possible? Or how did that happen?
Well, I don't really know, because since I was a child, everyone told me that I'm really mature.
I'm not like the other kids of my age. And I always did it like it came something natural for
me to listen to the others and try to help them. Maybe sometimes I can, maybe sometimes I cannot,
but it didn't really came from something else, you know?
Perfect. You said that people mentioned you have like a more mature attitude compared to other
people your age. Why do you feel since you're into psychology that this happens? Are you an
old soul? And you feel Oh, in a previous time, I was a queen or whatever 1000 years ago,
and I'm reincarnated, but I'm originally eight years old. And now I'm much younger with a soul
of an old, wise woman. Or is it that you feel for whatever reason, like me personally,
for example, I grew up around my grandfather and his friends. So I did not play with children,
I was all around people over 70, etc. So it gave me more maturity. Or was it that the books you
read or you're just that way? It's your energy, the energy of wisdom and introspection.
You know what, you get the point. I really believe you're reincarnated.
Really. So our stories are not that different. You know, I always grew up with many adults
in conjuring me. So yeah, I think from that is on because sometimes I feel like an old soul,
like you said. I don't know why, but I never felt my age and I never could.
How can I say? I never adapt with all the children in front of me. And that was a very
big problem in school because I never knew why, but my schoolmates simple used to deny me.
And that was a really tough thing for me because at that time I didn't understand why.
But now I understand that they just couldn't play with me or stay with me or talk to me because we
didn't have the same things that we have done. And that's all now I'm now I'm okay with that
but at that time it really affected me. I understand and I don't know maybe that
relates a little bit to your desire to help people with psychology at the same time since
you did not resonate with children. What is and was fascinating to you about adults? Is it that
you love their experience and you wanted to learn because you're curious and you want to know the
world etc? Is it because you love their maturity and the kind of elegant calmness some adults might
have while children might be too chaotic? Or what is it to you that makes adults someone or a kind
of people you resonate with? I only saw in adults this type of independent persons and people so I
always liked this idea because when I was young I never really trusted all the things these adults
were telling me about go do that no that's wrong no I never I never kind of like to listen to that
made me feel angry sometimes because I wanted to see what's happening if I do this or if I do that
and I yeah I I liked it most were to stay with adults than children as long as they denied me
but I always try to to not lose my my confidence through this because as I said sometimes it
was very hard for me but yeah also in these days I like more staying with adults than teenagers
Thank you that's actually a bit surprising because in the beginning you said you're very kind
you're very supportive such people usually have a problem with boundaries where they don't feel
comfortable saying no they really like if other people tell them they don't really get angry but
they're like oh I hope I don't disappoint this person blah blah blah so two things one how do
you combine and keep your kind side while being independent and secondarily what is the good
feeling about being independent in that way for you so two things how do you stay kind while being
independent and why do you enjoy the feeling of independence well I think it's in our instinctive
nature thing to be independent and second uh I I manage pretty well to be kind as being independent
because uh I'm a person that don't get mad so easily or get angry very easily just in really
tough points you know so it's not that it was wasn't never that hard for me to do that I love
and actually so that it's for the listeners they might enjoy this fun fact when you are
not being independent when someone has is controlling you and you don't like it
that feeling is because it crushes the serotonin in your brain which raises cortisol and therefore
it pushes you to claim your independence through that bad feeling and therefore it's not kind or
nice to try to control and rule over people and that's why when during times when there were
tyrants they needed fear and weapons and threat of killing just to make people submit because
otherwise they would not normally do that so that's a fun fact and it's very interesting and
it's part of the kindness and the important thing and I will ask you I respect your independence
and strength at the same time I understand in some cultures or in some places that are not
too modern some people might say you're too masculine you're being like a man stop doing it
blah blah blah so how do you react to that do you accept it and not care do you define your
own meaning of femininity or how do you do that because of course there are people like crabs in
a bucket that when you're trying to leave and go to a higher level they try to pull you down and
back that's a good point really you know uh i think i have uh this masculine attrition for my
because uh always girls denied me most girls i mean from my past and uh of course i hang out
with many boys i will go out drink a beer stuff like that you know and i was always judged for
this by the women or by the girls who saw me because i'll look at that she's hanging out
with 12 boys she's maybe uh i don't know what to say yeah so it's pretty rude but i don't really
care uh of what other people say because you know you have one life you're a nerd so why won't you
live it why would you always care about what others are saying about you because that's really not
defying you it's like it's like uh getting a bad grade at something you're not good at why do you
care you're not good at so don't try be good at something that you are not try to focus on what
you are good at and that's all you you don't need to be perfect because we are humans we're nothing
more we are always trying to make this greatest society and to be always polite and to always be
kind and to always do all these things just just for the others just for their impression their
first impressions and so on that's not a good thing in my opinion i don't know how what others
would say and these things about the men and the women of course there are differences but
it's normal it's something normal and we shouldn't be so upset about all these things by politically
correct and all this stuff because in font we are all men and women and we live together
and we live each other we live how can i say it um we live together we should live together in
peace because we are made to live together we are live we are made to uh to live in pairs
you know yes we complete and complement each other and thank you so much i love all your
insights and to extend it further because you touch on a very important point also nowadays
there are many women who worry even about the slightest thing of being in your situation of
being somehow judged etc what would you advise them as a future psychologist or a good friend
and advisor so that they will trust themselves more follow their own potential and their dreams
rather than worry oh what if people judge me what if i fail and my parents like are ashamed
or what if those girls laugh at me etc because that puts so many women stuck within their
comfort zone so how to be free from the worry about the judgment of others whether you succeed
and then they're jealous or you make some mistakes and they laugh at you and judge you
well at first to do whatever they think it's right not to be afraid to mistake always to
try to forgive anything because when you're forgiving you're forgiving for yourself not for
the others and this is something true maybe it might sound cruel to others but it's not that's
to be confident and to to feel good in their own bodies because as maybe you can see all these
new girls generations try always to be fit to be beautiful makeup nails done go to gym
that's not the beauty that's that's just the beauty standards that the society has put us on
because if you try to look in the old era women were the beautiful women were those who were fat
because that was a sign of fertility now it's not now it's to be slim so these things are moving
from time to time and there will always be a man or a woman depends on a case who will always love
you for what you are so always to try not to be that worried of what will others say and maybe
you're not beautiful you are beautiful in your own way and this is what men like to into a woman
their confidence and their attitude like for me as an example i'm not the slimmest i'm not the
most beautiful and i know that and i don't deny that and i'm i'm never going to get upset on this
if someone tells me because i know it's true and i love how i am created in my own way because
when you do these things like botox in your lips and all that stuff you are just destroying a body
that god made it perfect so why would you do that i agree a million percent and you recommended to
women to do what they want that implies that they would know what they want but many maybe because
of the programming of the news or instagram or society or parents they're like some people told
me what i should want i don't know what do you recommend as the journey of self-discovery so
that a woman will really understand herself so then she will know what to do that is her own
choice rather than copying because if someone doesn't know they'll be like that looks good i
will copy that girl and then you're lost because you're copying everyone but never in touch with
yourself so how to go through a journey of breaking free from the programming that society
or others put so that you find who you truly are well i think all women should wake up look
in the mirror and say that i really look good this day i'm really beautiful today i don't have
imperfections and the thing that i do mostly was you know this um this type of clothing uh
that it's now in vogue you know uh like i don't know shorts and stuff like this uh i always
wear clothes that are not in vogue but there was so i'm a little different and i never cared
about these things uh really much because i know i will attract the ones who are attracted by me so
i don't need to try that that hard to impress others i know it's it's really easy to say
just be confident that it's really hard to do but it's a normal thing and in a normal step in our
life and i found it through nature for example i found it through the ones who love me and
want my uh want me to be good i always have i always had sorry uh true friends uh what i mean
with true friends a true friend is the one who who will never hesitate to to tell you if you do
something wrong that is wrong no and you get upset or angry on it because why would you tell me that
i thought you're my friend no you're not your friend your friends are not just the ones who
tell you to come out and go to a club or i don't know stuff like this the friends are the ones you
can call them in three in the night and come and help you those friends are the ones who are always
there for you and they will always try to open your eyes if you do something wrong in their opinion
so try really hard to search for this type of people in front that are with you that is beautifully
said and very true and very poetic and you are from Romania which of course you love your country
and it's a beautiful place at the same time as an artist is there a place in the world that will
match your personality even more perfectly would you like to be in Rome surrounded by all the
museums in Paris near the Louvre and all the paintings some natural place where you can be
inspired even more or it's Alba Iulia you're like I love that place that's where I want to spend
many many many years well talking about Alba Iulia it's a it's a really small city it's a
very small city but it's I like it because it's very peaceful though you don't really have many
clubs or places to go and have really fun but it's I like it because it's a peaceful place
uh where my heart belongs for this moment is Egypt I don't know what I am I'm actually a
little obsessed with this country I don't know with its culture mostly um but my heart I think
belongs to Italy the place where I was born and I have a half of my family there and it's
so such a beautiful thing there because I live in a really remote place uh it's like
between a castle a small castle and a really small town back in the valley so I live
to the countryside to say like that and it's really really beautiful the most beautiful thing I
I wanted to I don't know see it every day because I I mostly like this kind of peaceful
peaceful lands and I don't know it's really helping me calm my mind because in all the
the dark period of my age that I had it of teenage I always craving in nature and that
really helped me I don't know how it made me ensure my confidence I don't know why but it did
and I love all this stuff of this Egypt culture I think I would like to live there or work there
but my heart still belongs to Italy though Romania it's a very very beautiful country
so I don't know what I would choose I would choose to stay in many many places you know
but I don't know what would I get to choose for now I think I would choose just Alba Iulia for
this moment. Thank you and that's really interesting that you're fascinated with the
Egyptian culture although you said you want to live there but it's very hectic it's like always
busy and then about the culture specifically what fascinates you about it do you feel it's
serious in some way is it the pyramids and imagining you are a queen there or like when
you spoke about reincarnation that you feel you are an ancient Egyptian pharaoh or a queen who
is reincarnated today or what about it is there something specific that fascinates you more than
anything is there something different to Romania that makes you in love with that difference or
how does it work okay so to make myself clear I was interested
not really not not let's say not always because I discovered this only a few years ago I always
was interested with energies and chakras and all this kind of stuff and in Romania
uh there are seven uh energetic paths you know uh and I really feel energy wherever I go here
uh and let's talk about this this thing with the reincarnation I really believe in it
uh I never imagined being a queen or something but I I really think I really think that in the past
I was something that had uh that had legacy with this thing in Egypt like I don't know I
I sometimes imagine myself being uh to Thebes I think you know Thebes uh I don't know why uh
and I was always interested with their with this ancient Egyptian uh religion and culture I think
very interesting they were really smart people they were really smart people and they discovered
so many things that you can't stop learning from them you know things um and yeah I think I am
something the reincarnated maybe I don't know yet but I would like to discover I also like
hypnotize and I don't know let's say all these things with energies and I like to
work with energy like if you have a small I don't know stomachache or headache
I can take it away and I really tested this on some people and it did work because I really
imagine this energy that I take it the bad energy and give them the good energy and this is really
happening this exchange so I really think it's working I always trusted in spirits ghosts
all these things and I think that I know that many many many people denied their existence
and I think this is now okay because if you trust in god for example or in the devil or heaven or
these things how can you don't trust in spirits because he's the uh he's the holy spirit he's
still a spirit so why won't you trust in all these spirits and I think uh for this question
the answer is fear uh people are afraid of discovering some things they they don't see
they don't hear they just can only feel and that's a that's not a really common experience
and I remember also that I got a little scared when when I discovered these things
uh I felt them not really discovered but I always feel like there is something that it's always
helping me I don't know how to call it an angel or the god or the power of the universe because
in in every culture it is called it's not called in the same way but I I really feel that there
is something that was helping me and I sometimes rely myself on that and it's really working I
I actually always had what I wanted in the end thank you I love that very very much and it makes
me curious what's your perspective about destiny there is a girl I interviewed and she said
it's like imagine the branches of a tree you will at some point like have to choose whether to go
right or left but then it will be for a while your destiny and then you again will choose
right or left and so you're both creating and um unfolding or discovering your destiny
but you as someone who you said you have like an angel protector who believes and feels energy
etc do you feel you're creating this whole life with yourself you're like manifesting it into
existence which some buddhists will believe or are you living the adventure that is already
pre-written and so you're just experiencing it but everything is meant to be or how do you see it
well i see this destiny is as something we cannot control i do i really do believe that
because i saw many times that when i wanted to do something and it i shouldn't do it or
i was just up and thinking maybe i should do that or not i always get a sign i don't know
something would drop or i want to i don't know pick up something and it's dropping from my hands
two or three times then i start thinking maybe i shouldn't do that you know i don't believe in
coincidences very much and our destiny is something that yeah we cannot control but
it's full of choices it's full of choices that we made not always independent but we are still used
to to get to choose what side we can or not because for example me if i want to go to psychology
maybe i wouldn't i would not like it who knows maybe i would not like it because it's psychology
it's just a science it's a it's a it's a type of thinking you know uh maybe i won't be good at it
maybe i won't get a good grade to enter to this university who knows because we have a really
really uh hard exam um i will have it the next year so who knows maybe then i will go to art
and do something with the art or go do something with the languages i learn who knows uh i always
like to uh live this life guiding me through all these steps uh i think this is the most beautiful
thing for me because i know maybe some some people will say it's but it's a chaotic life
how how do you like it i want to control everything that it's uh conjuring me and i
don't want anything left on its own now you can't control that that's this is just your reality that
you're living in you need to understand that you cannot control everything in your life
like when someone you love it's dying you cannot control it that's all you just need to accept and
go on i think this is pretty life like life so you cannot do all these things alone and maybe
sometimes you can use some help for the others but someone you know maybe some people want to be
this this bad independent that they are they're just uh refusing you your help or the help from
the universe and i i really met many people that are now regretting some of their decisions and
now they have nothing left to do but to live with those and i think this is really sad i agree 100
billion percent i really enjoyed talking to you romina it was my honor and my privilege to
hear your voice to share your experience and i i want more but we're running out of time so i wish
you blessing success and good energy and good vibes and thank you again thank you very much
