Episode Transcript
Hello, my name is Aziz and I'm the son of a divorced mother.
She is really my superhero.
That's why it's important for me to support women to share their uniqueness, their personalities,
perspectives and emotions about life.
Too many women today feel alone.
They worry about the judgment of others and they struggle with their mental health.
But when they listen to the Rare Girls podcast where empowered women share their voices and
tell their stories, many women will feel inspired to live a life of freedom and to
overcome all insecurities they will feel.
It is a safe space to find their confidence, to remember their unique beauty and to feel
their self-worth, and they will connect with the sisterhood of rare girls who encourage
their success and support their dreams.
That's what this podcast is all about.
My guest today is Bermet Talantbek Kizzi.
Bermet is from the beautiful country of Kyrgyzstan, currently living and working
in Sharjah, the United Arab Emirates.
Bermat is a Turkish university graduate
at the Department of International Relations.
She loves dancing, painting,
creating handmade jewelry,
as well as numerology, psychology,
and of course, traveling.
Bermat, how are you today?
Hi Aziz, I am very good.
Thank you so much.
What about you?
I feel blessed.
I feel very positive and curious about you as a person.
So I want to start with this nice first question, which is Bermed,
if your friends and the people who love you best could describe your personality,
what would they say about you?
I think they would say and also they're saying that I am a positive person.
I love that.
Let's ask more, because there are many people in this world,
even women who cannot find their positivity,
that positive energy.
Maybe you had in the past moments
where you were more depressed than sad,
but how did you develop your positivity?
So I think like from my childhood, I am positive,
but I had like some situations in my life
when like I had really challenging times.
So after I overcame these challenges,
I understood that these challenges
were really good lessons for me, so they will be very nice for the future. So now I understand
that any challenge, any bad situation is for something good, like we are given to these
challenges to maybe learn something. So once now I have any challenge, any like situation which I
wouldn't wish to have, I look at this in a very positive way. So I understand that it will
give me a very good lesson.
So I will become stronger as well.
So that's why now like I understand
that really need to be positive
and need to accept all of the situations in our lives
because everything is given for us for a reason.
I agree 100%.
I agree too that all challenges are there
to give us lessons and make us stronger.
But I'm curious, how is this related to numerology
and other thoughts that you have? Is it that one of the things that give you a positive confidence
in the future is that you feel maybe you know more because you do tarot numerology and some
spiritual things? Or what's your perspective about life, the future, and how to be in it?
So I really love to know about myself more, to understand myself, and to know other people.
I want to know the reason why it's happening.
So for that, I like from my childhood, I didn't know what is psychology, but I was really
curious about that.
I wanted to know, like to understand people better.
So that's why I was interested in it.
And now like I'm feeling that it's really helpful numerology also it helps to understand
on the first place myself.
Once you just investigate it, you know maybe more about yourself, maybe some of your weak
points, your strong points.
So you will try to develop your strong sides and also you will try to develop some things.
So for example, once I try to understand myself more with numerology, I think, oh
really it's like that.
So, and after that, I'm like trying to make this site better, so to work on it.
I really, really love that.
And it makes me wonder you as a positive woman, when you moved from Kyrgyzstan to the UAE,
to some people that's like a shock, an adaptation, a difficult period in the beginning.
How was that for you?
And maybe your advice for women who are moving to a new place that might be difficult
adapt to, so that they find their positivity even in the middle of chaos.
Of course once I just moved, like I just graduated from university and my environment was completely
different. Once I moved to different country, I met a lot of people all around the world
with different backgrounds, with different world view. So what we need to do, we need to just
be interested in it. We just need to have like, make a new friends. And of course we
need to surround ourselves with right people. It's very important. So of course need to
be out of comfort zone in order to develop, but it should not harm us. So that's why
need to choose, need to choose and need to surround with really people which you
comfortable, which you share the common goals maybe. So it will be really important.
So even if you are in other parts of the world, you will definitely find people which share the
same ideas, the same goals, which have the same worldview. It will definitely happen.
So that's why no need to be worried. Just need to be friendly, need to be kind,
Make new friends and surround yourself with people which you feel really comfortable
and which will always support you.
Thank you. I agree that the deeper purpose in this life is to create our own small universe
filled with the right people that are great and supportive and not toxic.
And to you specifically.
Let's say there is a woman from any place in the world
and she's moving to the UAE for work and it's hard work, you work a lot.
How do you find time to meet those people?
is it people from work? What did you do? What is your advice? Are there some things that you do,
let's say, after work, you go do some different classes to meet people, maybe in the weekend,
you go say hello to people in a brunch, or I don't know what do you do, but specific advice
so that some women who might be going through that, they will know what to do.
Actually, once I just came to the UAE, I found my friends in my workplace because once you're
working hard, you are spending a lot of time at work.
You're working all day and you're coming home to take rest.
That's why I believe once you just come, you will definitely find your good friends
at workplace.
Because once you're working together, you understand each other in a way of work.
And as well, once you get each other better, you will understand.
You will understand if it's your person or maybe you don't match.
I agree. I like that very, very much.
And you are a woman who has been through different adventures.
Like you went after graduating from Kyrgyzstan to the UAE.
you try different activities, you're open-minded, you want to try numerology, etc.
There are many women who feel like they have to live life in order to obey their parents or in
order to not disappoint their friends and the people they know, but their heart wants a different
goal and they worry what if I go for that goal and then I fail and everybody will hate me,
be disappointed, I will cry very hard, but that's the only way that they can be happy and live life
to their potential. What's your advice for them so that they find their confidence, their courage,
and maybe a different way to think about the people around them instead of disappointing them?
Maybe it's surprising them with your potential or I don't know what you'll say, but please
share your opinion. All right, so it's a very good question. In my opinion, like it's a fact that we
have only one life in our life. We have only one life. That's why we shouldn't sacrifice and think
about other people what they will think. Just please set your goals and go to your dreams and
never think about what other people will say. So they can say a lot of things. So that's why
please surround yourself with people which will support you. And if someone is criticizing
and telling that it's not right, please don't believe it. I think that people don't know
your potential, that they don't know how strong you are and how successful you can be. Even
you don't know yourself how you are strong. For example, once I look at my past, I'm thinking,
oh girl you did it like that time when once i was overcoming these things for example
i didn't know how strong i am and i didn't know will i overcome this challenge or no but now
looking at the past i'm seeing i'm seeing that i did it so never ever listen if someone is telling
you can do it just go go forward go higher and don't listen to this kind of force please
100 percent. I agree with that. And to speak about Kyrgyzstan and you as a woman who grew up there,
what is the culture of a woman from Kyrgyzstan? How different is it to the culture of people
from different places? And do you find enough women from your country in the UAE or are
they more rare and therefore it's something that you are representing your country even more?
So in my country, we have like our culture, our mentality, and it's quite different from other cultures.
For example, we have the same saying that what other people will say, mostly it's our older generation.
Mostly they have this thoughts, but our new generation, I believe we are so like goal oriented.
we are striving for success, even in UAE now we can see a lot of successful women from
our country, which are striving for success, for life, and like my generation, mostly
no more things what other people say.
So maybe it's because I'm surrounded with this kind of women, that's why I'm seeing
this.
But if, for example, in my country, there are some villages.
So there we have, we have all generation and there it's really common to think what
other will tell.
So that's why just we need to be reminded that we have only one life and we should
not sacrifice for like sorts of other people.
we should go to our aims and we need to enjoy our lives for ourselves.
100 billion percent. Thank you so much, Bermit. I agree with that. And some women, they have this
inner conflict where they think, well, I want to be a go-getter. I want to be an important woman.
I want to create all my dreams in the world, but they feel it's too much masculine energy.
maybe it's uncomfortable or they lose touch with their femininity.
What is your experience with that?
Since you're a hard worker, how do you feel comfortable
with any masculine energy needed to achieve in this world?
How do you balance your femininity?
Some women get so used to the masculine energy,
they don't feel comfortable to let go and flow with the feminine energy.
They feel it's too risky or too vulnerable.
What's your experience and thought on this topic?
All right, so I think that it's right. We need to find balance. It should be balanced
We shouldn't think that femininity is about weakness
Actually, we can be strong and feminine at the same time
so I think
that
No need to fight in this world. Just need to achieve your goals
by enjoying, but just enjoy and achieve your goals.
It's very important.
No need to think that the world is so negative.
You need to find, you need to be strong in a masculine way.
It's not like that.
So I need to be feminine.
If you would like to be feminine, please be feminine.
If you would like to be masculine,
of course be masculine.
So it's not a problem.
Just be yourself and achieve your goals by enjoying, but no need to be stressed and to fight with some difficulties.
Just try to overcome, try to be positive, try to smile and everything really will be easier for you.
Like it depends on your mindset as well.
If you believe that you will reach your goal by easy way, you will do it.
universe will help you. But if you think that everything around is bad and it's so difficult,
so I think it would not be good for yourself. Just enjoy your life and reach your goals.
Thank you so much for this. And you spoke about the importance of having the right
people around you so that you don't feel alone, you feel supported. Well, some women,
even you who come in from Kyrgyzstan where many people are kind and good people moving somewhere
else, maybe a big place where there could be great people as well as some manipulative people,
how do you know the difference when you meet someone? What makes you know this is my kind
of person, I want them to be my friend? Or no, this person is fake, let me escape,
because some people can be too trusting or some women can trust too fast too much.
So maybe some of the red flags or the experience to know the good people from the people who pretend to be good.
All right. So I think that the first thing to recognize is it your person or it's not your person.
You should feel comfortable. So this is the most important thing.
Secondly, the person will be very positive and will be very supportive always.
The person will tell something and will do the same.
So this is also very important. You need to follow your feelings because you will always
feel if you are comfortable with that person or no for example. And of course there are a lot of
like psychological tricks. We can find a lot of information on internet as well. We can read
about that and once you know it you will just catch it. So it's not that difficult because
we have a lot of sources, we can reach a lot of information. So for that, just be with
person you feel comfortable and try to recognize these manipulations. Of course, it's a big topic,
but of course, just follow your feelings. And of course, we can recognize it by experience,
because we can read about it, but maybe we did not experience yet.
So that's why it might be very difficult to recognize in the beginning, like to recognize some manipulations.
For that, if, for example, now you are experiencing the manipulation, still be positive.
It will be a good lesson for you.
Once you will have this challenge, you will always overcome.
and once you will go out from these manipulations, you will get out a really, really nice lesson.
So this is what I can add as well. Yes, the lessons are actually making every mistake,
not a mistake, but an investment because we learn, grow and invest in ourselves
by taking those risks and exploring new situations that we didn't experience before.
And to finish this, just, is there any advice or message or something that you feel more women in this world should hear so that they live their life happier,
so that they go out of their comfort zone, so that they reach their potential?
Anything that even to yourself maybe you want to remember or share with other women because it will be useful for them to think about?
Just I feel that we are women should always be reminded that we are beautiful, we are strong
and we deserve all of the best things in this world.
We are kind.
So that's why we need to be reminded about it and we should be confident, we should
proud of our decisions. So this is very important and always be reminded and if for example you feel
that other friend feels down we need to support each other always and we need to remind about
it each other. It would be really nice and I think this is very good.
Thank you so much, Bermit. It was my privilege and my honor to have you on this podcast to share your experiences, thoughts, and everything related to you.
I wish you all the success, all the happiness, all the good people, and a fantastic, successful life. Thank you again.
Thank you so much, Aziz, and thank you for this opportunity to share and to contribute into this beautiful project.
I'm really, really grateful for that.
