Episode Transcript
Hello, my name is Aziz and I'm the son of a divorced mother.
She is really my superhero.
That's why it's important for me to support women to share their uniqueness, their personalities,
their perspectives, and emotions about this world.
In these difficult times in human history, we need to bring the people of the world together.
And when we hear the voices of women, when we listen to real lives of women from other
countries, we connect our cultures without differences or stereotypes.
And we get inspired by their stories to live a better life.
That's what this podcast is all about.
My guest today is Felicia Moisienko.
Felicia is a Moldovan girl studying at Mihai in Inesco College.
Felicia likes to read, sing, draw, and to listen to music.
And she loves foreign languages such as English and Spanish.
She participated in a local council named Dacia where they discussed about local problems
and tried to make the life of teenagers and everyone better by doing charity acts and
various concerts to entertain people and solve many problems.
At her current college, she participated in various seminars for human rights and gender
equality.
They also engaged with these seminars in different schools and presented their ideas about these
topics and had very insightful discussions.
Felicia also participated in many events such as ZIWA Maralui and different competitions
about poetry recital and she was part of various student Olympics.
Felicia, how are you today?
Hello, I'm fine.
How about you?
I'm feeling excited about the new year, happy to be alive, full of energy and very curious
about you as a person.
So I'll begin with this nice question, Felicia.
If your friends, the people who know you best, could describe your personality, what will
they say about you?
I think they would say about me that I'm a happy person, a very extrovert person, but
in the same time I can be an introvert person if the people around me are not matching my
energy.
I'm also a spontaneous person.
I like to do good things.
I like to try new things, new experience.
They could say that I have very different ideas, ideas that they couldn't think about.
That's really interesting.
I have so many questions, but I'll begin with this.
You said you're a happy girl.
Nowadays it seems a lot of people have a brain that thinks more about the negativity, anxiety
and worry.
How are you happy?
What I mean is in a good way, because I love happy people, is it that you have so much
energy that it destroys any negativity and you're so happy about that?
Is it because you believe life is too short and so it's a waste to not be happy or are
you around happy people and they infect you with that energy or what is the source of
your happiness in a world where many people complain, feel negative and have a lot of
worry?
I believe that the humans have their own energy and I think that the people around us make
us feel happy or sad or anxious or different kind of emotions.
What I can say is that nobody can be happy all the time, but we need to try.
Because like you said, life is short and different people think that it's the beginning of the
week, so in the weekend I will do that and that, but it's not like that.
We need to take every moment that we have and invest in it because we don't know what
could happen tomorrow or the minute after that.
So happiness, we can make our happiness and we don't need to make anybody make our happiness
because we need to make our happiness by ourselves.
I love the wisdom you're sharing right now.
I want to discuss energy, but first, usually people who say things like you did where we
shouldn't wait for the weekend to feel alive, to enjoy life, that every moment we don't
know what can happen next, usually they had some difficult times in their childhood or
at some part of their life that gave them wisdom and let them know that it's not okay
to delay happiness to the future because you don't know what happened.
Is this a situation you have encountered or did you learn from someone else like a grandfather
or grandmother who always told you, oh, if I were young, I will enjoy every day much
more.
You don't know how lucky you are or something like that.
Can you tell me a bit more about this?
Yes, I could say that the things you said were right because the people around us, the
older tell us, the younger generation that we need to live our life.
We need to be proud that we are young.
We need to do things like that and like that.
And actually I learned from different kinds of perspectives from different people and
actually from my experience that I know that life is not infinity and we can't live forever.
So we need to take advantage of the time that we have.
We need to, if in that moment we like to do something, we need to do it now.
Because I heard yesterday a thing that was in my mind, there is the rule of five seconds.
So our brain will kill the idea of doing something in five seconds.
So if we are not doing it in five seconds, then we will not do it after all.
So we need to think fast, not to overthink everything and to try spontaneous things.
I agree 100%.
At the same time, I'm curious about your personality because earlier you mentioned that you're
spontaneous now and even before you spoke about you trying many things, seizing the
day, carpe diem, enjoying all the opportunities.
Really such a person loves new emotions, gets bored somehow easily of routine.
At the same time for you to study languages, to be a participant in Olympics and events,
study too, you need to do a lot of routine things, a lot of exercises and homework that
can be very, very boring.
How do you keep yourself disciplined without killing that spontaneous free part of your
personality without getting too bored at the same time?
Sometimes it gets bored because I enter in a routine.
For example, now I'm on vacation and I have more time for myself.
But when I'm in school, I barely have time for anything.
And sometimes it's stressful because I go home at five o'clock and it's already dark.
So until I get home and do other things, it's already too late, but I try to manage.
I try to do every day one thing that I like to do or to draw or to watch a movie, to stay
with my friends, with my family, to talk or to listen to my favorite song.
Just because I know that every day we have to do something for ourselves, not just for
other things, because sometimes we, but actually all the time, we don't do things that we actually
like and we have to do things that we like before the disciplines, before the lessons,
the homeworks and other stuff that we need to do.
We must do because our future is based on that.
And if we try to reach the higher point, we need to work hard.
I learned that and I will succeed.
And I think that nothing comes easy.
Very, very true.
I agree again and I say there is a lot of wisdom that you have amassed from maybe people.
And you spoke about energy actually three times.
It means it's something that is very important to you, the energy of the people who are around
you.
And to ask you even deeper, where do you think that energy of people comes from?
Are you some kind of, for example, spiritual girl who believes in tarot and destiny and
you believe that energy is a manifestation of God or of the source of the universe?
Or do you think it's more about how people live their life?
If they're doing what they love, they have passion and therefore they have that energy
that you love.
But if they're doing things they hate, it kills their energy and therefore it becomes
that energy that makes you feel tired and not inspired.
Or to you, what is that energy?
Because it cannot be scientifically explained.
Yes, I don't know what to say about that, but I'm not that spiritual, but also I believe
that there are energies and different humans, different people have different kind of energies.
Some of them are called like vampire that extract our energy and we feel weak.
I can say that from one experience that I talk with a person and after all I felt very
exhausted and I didn't know the reason.
I actually till now don't know the reason, but I presume, I don't know.
I think that people's energies are very important and we need to try to make them good energies,
but not bad energies.
Thank you.
And therefore, if I understood correctly, are you an empath?
Are you a girl who you can feel people's energy even walking in the street?
Maybe like me, you can feel the dogs and the cat energy and everything around.
You can feel it in your body, how they're feeling, their emotions, et cetera.
Or is it more when they speak to you, the topics, how much passion they have in their
words?
That's how you experience their energy or how is it for you?
I think that the talking part, because I'm not very with spiritual things, but if a person
talks to me, I can understand if this person is happy to see me or it's anxious or other
things.
Thank you.
And beyond energy, when you meet people and you meet a lot of people because you're involved
in some conferences, events, all kinds of things that have a lot of people in them,
what makes you, when you meet someone, think, yes, this is my kind of person.
Is it some shared values?
Is it people who are going on an adventure in life outside their comfort zone?
Is it people who first focus on helping others, on creating projects that are good for society?
Is it people that love drawing and languages and similar things?
Or how is the difference between you having meeting someone and having them only as an
acquaintance compared to someone you feel is your person and become a friend?
I like open-minded persons.
It doesn't need to love the same things that I do because diversity is a very good thing.
I just sense it.
I don't know how to say it.
A person who speaks freely, a person who is not afraid to say their point of view, but
if we go deeper to friendships, I like a loyal person, a person who I can trust, who I can
base, based on, and if we talk about the person that I don't like, the persons that are liars
that are not honest, first of all with themselves, some persons that reach for the highest point,
but they didn't do nothing for that, the persons who believe they are above everyone, but in
reality they're not, because I believe an honest person, a real friend or something
like that, needs to be calm, needs to be aware, and needs to listen to everybody's opinion
and to take each one of them and understand each point.
I like that.
That's actually the description of a perfect leader.
It's a really important leadership trait to listen, to understand, to get all the perspectives
and create something that is great for the group or the community.
And to understand even more, you're a Moldovan girl.
Some people in the world, maybe they don't know too much about Moldova, they maybe don't
even know where it is on the map, they don't understand the culture.
In 2023, what does it mean for you to be a Moldovan girl?
Is it a very modern kind of person who is a mix of many cultures?
Is it 50% conservative traditional girl, 50% European?
I don't know how to describe it, but if you are to speak about the younger generation
in Moldova, how is their culture and personality, how different is it to the older generation,
and are you similar to them or are you somehow different in a significant way?
I think that if I was born here and raised here, I cannot be different.
I somehow have different points of view from other people, for example, the older ones
that don't understand the teenagers, but I like our traditions because they're special,
they're what makes us a special country.
I know that not everybody knows about Moldova, but I can assure that this country is very
interesting and has very interesting stories and legends that even till now nobody knows
the true story.
We have different traditions, we have costumes from shirts, skirts and shoes, but they have
different meanings, like the shirt is named Ije, we have Katrinsa, Bundica, Opinci and
other things.
We have different traditions like dancing, we have like Hora, which is a dance where
everybody holds hands and dances in a circle and there are different kinds of moves with
the legs, but it's very special and everybody loves it.
In every party and every occasion there has to be one of these dances.
That sounds interesting and I'm sure many people will search on YouTube or Google to
discover even more.
And you have been involved in projects for gender equality, for women's rights.
For people who don't know, how is the situation of women's rights, gender equality, the freedom
of women in Moldova, what do you think it is?
Is there anything you would like to be improved or you think it's already great and progressing
or what is your perspective?
I think that it has to be improved, not in my country but all over the world, because
no country has the right to say that they ended inequality between genders.
There is so much to work with and if we begin with us, I think that we can change it little
by little.
In these projects and seminars that we made, we tried to make the people know that we are
all equal and we are all the same, that women can do things like repairing a car and mens
can do cleaning and things around the house.
There is no rule that says that no gender can do the things that ours does.
I think that we are equal and there are some people that don't know about these things.
They have an idea implemented in their head that is an old idea and they go by it till
they die.
But we have some people and a lot of them that tries to make this inequality equal.
I support that 100% and like you said, all over the world there needs to be big changes,
a lot more progress and a lot more equality and rights.
And to finish this, you are a girl who takes a lot of initiative, you are involved in many
projects and maybe there are teenage girls all over the world who don't feel so confident,
maybe they don't think their ideas are worth hearing or social media tells them, oh you
are not as perfect and beautiful as these girls, not as successful as some people who
are on private jets and live a luxury life in Bali or Dubai or whatever.
To you, what is your advice to those girls who want to gain their confidence and maybe
a process for them to take more initiative, to share their voices stronger without being
afraid that they will be judged or that their ideas are not interesting?
I know that social media lies because nobody has a perfect life.
There are different parts because there is no happiness without sadness.
So my advice to everybody is to listen to their heart, express their opinion and don't
hold back because this is what holds us in one place.
Even if we are scared, even if we don't want to do it, not in a bad way but we don't want
to do it because we are scared, we need to try, we need to do new things, we need to
express our feelings because we matter and our personality is the most important thing.
We don't need to think about others because their opinion is not so important from our
opinion because somebody could try to take us down because they are jealous, somebody
could say that they have a better opinion and I think it's okay because everybody is
different and everybody thinks they know the best, I don't know but in one sentence I can
say that everybody is unique and they need to do what they want even if you are scared.
Thank you so much Felicia for this hopeful, optimistic, empowering message.
It was my privilege and honor to share your voice, your experiences and perspectives.
Please keep going, I wish you success, I wish you a bigger impact in this world to you and
every girl and woman.
Thank you again.
Thank you so much.
