Episode Transcript
Hello, my name is Aziz and I'm the son of a divorced mother she is really my superhero. That's why it's important for me to support women to share their uniqueness, their personalities perspectives and emotions about this world in these difficult times in human history we need to bring the people over the world together, and when we hear the voices of women when we listen to real life, soft women from other countries, we connect our cultures without differences or stereotypes, and we get inspired by their stories to live a better life that's what this podcast is.
All about my yesterday is Simone Palito Simone is a heels and pole dancer and an adult ballerina from Fort Lee Eataly Simone loves foreign languages. She dedicated her selves since she was a little girl to learning done so she has earned a Bach degree in translation and a masters degree in teaching foreign languages, her world rotated around learning new ways of approaching foreign languages and knowing different cultures through traveling and living abroad, she became a secondary school teacher and taught in Britain and then in Spain parallel with this vocation she has always had a passion for dancing from ballet to hip-hop to Latin ballroom. She tried everything then she.
Stopped for a long time, and at the age of 30 she got back into dancing until she found her true passion, exotic, pull downs. She has been doing this for three years now, and it helped her rediscover her self. Her sensuality and self love dance is her fuel and her source of energy at channel through which she met amazing people and artist. Now her objective is to merge these two passions and create her own program to teach languages. In the dancing context Simone. How are you today? Hi, I am good thank you very much. I'm happy, honored and lucky to have you here. I am very curious to know much much more about you, so I will begin with this nice first question, which is.
Simone. If your friends and the people who know you best could describe your personality. What do they say about you? I think they would just say that I am a very bubbly person. I am always a person who makes other people laugh and with always a smile on my face and personality wise I would say quite a wise person, my best friend for example, as she always defined me with her other group of friends as I owe, she has them at the good side of me she's the one who's gonna always give me like a good advice if I'm really struggling, so I think they would say that I have this like you know I like you can see.
Feel these energy from me silent a berry energetics dynamic person by the same time I am very caring and I like really helping others too and support them so poorly days are two traits of my personality that they want to come up with that say thank you I love that and it makes me wonder if they're a part of you that is put on a smile on other people and trying to be the ray of sunshine for other people when you are pole dancing and do in heels dance or is it really all about you more of a selfish indulgence that you enjoy you very very much. This is a very good question now well I would say is that.
So I started pole dancing during the pandemic so I just had like a couple of like let's say four classes before the pandemic started and then everything closed down and I decided to buy myself a pool and set it up in my living room so let's say that for two years, I actually dance for myself only I was, it was like you're not a rediscovery of my own body sensuality abilities of doing things, and I think that was really personal
Last year in November 2020 actually November 2021 I took part of my very first site group class in the a.m. dance studio in Madrid and that was the first moment I shared my dancing and my passion with others. I like to everyone cheering for me everyone like making me feel so welcome in the community actually made me realize that I can also give energy and sparkle and communicate my feelings and my sensuality with others and that's when I decided that I wanted to have two Instagram accounts like that ASAP right now because I wanted to hide my dance one but I wanted to have my Instagram dedicated to the dancing so I could share my progress on my ability and my new abilities with others so I could encourage others to actually follow my path or like see my sensuality.
You will see the story I was trying to tell so I would say that is such as a very selfish sort of exercise and self discovery, but has now become like something I want to share, and like my ultimate goal is going to happen in April because on 21 April, I will take part in to add the pole saw dance competition in kilter in Poland and then on 7 May I actually take part to eight a competition in my hometown where I basically grew up to Zana where I am going to dance in front of like my parents and in a theater where are used to go?
Dancing with my friend so it's going to be a very emotional sort of thing and I'm so proud that that is going to be my showcase. I'm gonna show everyone this is what I've been doing for the last three years, so I am really excited. I love that story and definitely you'll have to share it with all of us the videos of you dancing for your parents, your friends and show your progress and skills and that also makes me wonder because very very recently. I interviewed another pole dancer from the US who said that pole dance in America had this kind of stigma about Dave that it's not really a professional sport but more about sensuality and sexuality, so do you just wondering in Spain and Italy? Is there a sigma stigma about it that you are trying to overcome them to fix and to change peoples mentality is, or is Paul die in something?
That is a very accepted and I saw always your parents and friends were always happy about it and nobody seem to be bothered. OK this is a very good question and you said an amazing like he's like timing is perfect so actually a pool dance is still not perceived as a sport or as.
Like an activity or sports activity
Now what you have to consider is that yes, pull dancing and especially the exotic style comes from strippers started so we are like we were able to do this sort of sport. We are actually we need to be grateful and we all there is to strippers and clubs, a strip clubs, but obviously as everything.
Images of goals, and being a pole dancer doesn't automatically mean that you were in a strict stripper or you're not automatically a dancer from club and section like a connotation is always give into this now my parents I don't think they still don't think they approve anyway because my parents are from the south of Italy and they're very close minded in away so they still make jokes about this so like it off and my mom I was telling my mom that my plan is to try and buy a portable Paul so I could just go and dance on the beach and she's like what you Gotta dance on the beach. This is disgusting so you know my parents are not like he's not did not supportive like the support my decision, but at the same time did aunt Sherry.
And Spain ice thoughts that are used to work in a British school in a private British school here in Spain and actually I got fired because of my dancing so I had a 10 days investigation because some of the students found some of my TikTok videos and they were not even pull dancing, but because during the interview, I also told the head teacher that I used to pull dance that really triggered the whole sexual stigma, and the person in question is a British person, but it was supported by Spanish people that were owners of the school and I got within 10 days I got fired. I got a put it at the door with the latter actually saying that I was a good.
Danger for children, because I was sexualizing my body and my activities so I would say they're not even in Spain not even in the British I don't wanna generalize and say that British people don't agree or don't share these some later activity, but at the same time I think there's still some a lot of bigotry linked to this, and there is still a lot of prejudice and I feel that still nowadays, at least from my experience like I don't have a supportive environment around me. My boyfriend at the moment is the only one who actually is really proud of what I do and actually start like he's gone to work and he works for Leica Leica some Cutler kite surf foot.
A reality and in the IT world and he is the one who, like sometimes shows my videos to his friends. His colleagues look how good she is look how amazing she is and he's really proud and he's a Spanish guy so I think it's just about perspectives, but I feel that the all generations and you know like to like average society is still not understanding what kind of 1 million faces Paul dance can have so yes that was a very good question. I'm really happy that I got to tell all this, that's absolutely a horrible situation. You don't deserve it, and all women should have the freedom to do everything that make them happy and not feel over sexualized, or judged no matter what they dress what they do, how they dance or anything, because in many ways, those people have sick to.
Austin mines much more than your behavior, so they were wrong and I can say that I need to ask you even more because this is very important and very relevant to women and teenage girls in general. Who might worry about the judgment of others. Maybe they have anxiety about pole dancing or doing anything following their dreams and then they think what if I fail and people laugh at me what if people judge me and say I'm wrong and all that so what motivates you or what keeps you strong in order to do what you love, although it could be judge word for by others and what is your advice for all women who might be limiting themselves because they worry they could be in the same situation you have been before or that their parents will see similar comments to what your mom does, so why would I say to
So I would dare I I've been through a very tough time myself, and I had about three months where everything kind of like in a way that was drowning from all the opinions and the experience of being fired and suspended for like while suspended, and I'm fired for my passion of dancing and for my actually having a private life because I've always been very professional is calling didn't you don't like to I didn't I've never said to the kids always dad is doing French today we're gonna do pull dancing, which wouldn't have been a problem but you know like I know my place I know that I'm a I'm a languages, secondary teacher and I'm in that moment I'm not the pole dancer so I do have an extra life spa like the judgment and everyone else
Took a big big toll on me like it just really really affected and I had to months where I felt ugly useless and not valued and I think that really really affected me at the time but when I started to actually come up with the idea of these new me, knowing that I have a big community of pole dance just behind my back that was supporting me actually made me realize you know what I don't care what everyone else says, and I actually recently watch the feet
Video from all alike in from an interview taken from by Oprah and it was the reposted by Natalie or that is now my life coach, and the ditch that she was asked of non-so many successful people. What do all these people have in common and her Sanchez is like when we are trying to two in Lake in embrace a new change or new things with tan to actually always question of south and ask yourself what will address think of me while we are other people say why would other people do and she said like the difference is that the successful people actually say an awesome sauce what do I want and I just say had a big like you know my lightbulb turned on and I was like that's the key what do I want I don't care if everyone else doesn't see this as a possible successful
